Anxiety is part of the fight or flight mechanism. Whenever we encounter a threat, based on a quick assessment over our abilities and the situation we are in we chose to either fight the threat or run away from it.
Whenever we choose to confront that threat, the emotions behind that drives us is anger, whenever we chose to run away from the threat the emotions behind is fear or when it gets very severe it turns into anxiety. Behind depression there is suppressed frustration, and behind anxiety there is supressed rage.
In order to stop your anxiety you have to express the anger behind it in such a way that it is going to lead to a resolution and is going to reduce or eliminate the possibility for the situation that triggered your anxiety from happening again.
Rage is generally the emotions someone feels before they kill, I am not saying that you necessarily want to kill people or that you will one day as much that you feel like doing so. This is why you want to be careful whenever you externalize your anxiety because you don't want to cause any permanent damage to yourself or others.
We suppress emotions as a self protection mechanism, if you want to see people with a low capacity to suppress their emotions go and visit a prison. Suppression is not always bad, sometimes it is necessary, it is a great self preservation instinct.
In order for you to conclude that it is necessary to suppress your anger, you must of found yourself in a situation where you were trapped in chronic abuse, where at the time there wasn't anything you could've done.
When we are trapped in abuse we internalize the abuse in order to minimize the external abuse we receive. For example a slave is very careful to please his master not because he wants it or because he has something to gain, but if doesn't he is going to get whipped. So if he pleases his master he doesn't get hurt as much.
The way we internalize is by either being selfrighteaus or by becoming self loathing. For the self righteous person the fault is always placed outside on environmental factors and other people, so personal flaws and deficiencies are left unexamined and untreated.
Selfrighceous people externalize their anger but because they have so many blind spots it is not done in a productive way that leads to a resolution.
Self loathing people always blame themselves for whatever they do, there is no one to be angry other than yourself, so there is very little external expression of anger. Whenever some unfairness happens the self loathing person finds a reason to blame it on himself.
It is always a warning sign, when someone places the blame either completely on himself or external. That is almost never the case, there is always a combination of factors that contribute to the outcome of a situation, sure one party can be more responsible for the outcome than the other party. But the responsibility doesn't ever belong exclusively to just one party.
In order to let your anger out in a constructive way, you have to learn who you should blame and hold people responsible in a righteous way.
