The purpose of anxiety is to control your life! This is why it is impossible to control it.
It is an impulse design to control you in case of emergency in order to save your life.
Trying to control it is the worse thing you can do in regards to anxiety, because it is impossible you are going to struggle and fail, also in the process of doing so, you are going to destroy your self esteem from the repeated failure.
Behind anxiety there is always rage, whenever something puts you in danger and there is no way to stop it, the last solution is to destroy that threat.
However when you can't do that you will repress your rage and experience the same energy as anxiety.
Which it is a very strong impulse to avoid that threat. The only solution to anxiety is separation, also simultaneously the healthy expression of rage is separation.
Because if you separate from the person that makes you feel, rage you don't have to hurt it or tolerate the abuse until it turns into anxiety.
I'am not saying that you shouldn't seek retribution if there is any significant damage that occurred to your propriety, but it is probably wise to don't keep contact with abusive people in your life.
As a side effect of extended abuse, we internalize the abuse and start blaming ourselves for the abusive action of other people.
This is why people who suffer from anxiety, generally speaking blame their symptoms on themselves. If you talk with them, they will tell you that they have anxiety not that certain elements of the world gives them anxiety. Which is really always the truth.
Sometimes people are anxious about things that they desire. Which is really where it gets confusing because a part of you want's to run away screaming while another part of you want's to interact with that thing that is causing your anxiety.
In this case separation is not as easy because the part of you that desire that thing is going to keep driving you forward. Regardless of that the solution is still separation, there are always more ways to meet ones needs.
For example if you are in a relationship with someone who is giving you anxiety, the solution is to separate yourself from that person and find someone that is not giving you anxiety.
