Tipping is one culture that some of us have also adapted to, maybe not all of us, because I believe it should not be what we are forced or obligated to do, but an action made out of choice, yet, it is very common to find some workers who feel entitled to get a tip from you, while some do it politely or what I would rather refer to as stylish begging , some can be outright rude about it. The common polite ones are the security guards, especially those who work at the bank, I don't know if it's the mentality that anyone who visits the bank should surely have money that gives them the confidence to ask for a tip. It is not left to them to decide when to ask but a decision the giver has to make at their own convenience and willingness because, asking someone that probably doesn't have at that moment makes them feel bad, at least that is how I would feel.
The only reason I give them sometimes is because ,first, I probably have what to give at that moment and not because they asked, and also because of the hunger and hardship in the country, that makes people go the extra miles of trying to find extra money to meet their needs without any shame and even feel entitled about it, rather than consider it as tip, I just consider it as my own freewill.
Giving is a good thing, don't get me wrong, in fact, we receive more joy when we give than when we receive, bit that doesn't mean that one has to be entitled to your hard earned money when you patronize their service. For me, I tip when the service is delivered as expected or beyond expectation and also when I have the extra cash to tip, on cases when I don't, I just ignore, that doesn't make me a bad customer either,I don't have an you can't force me to give what I don't have.
There was a period I worked at a firm and discovered that what most of thee staffs look out for was to get tipped by clients, it was even more regarded than their actual salary, but for me, I often turned down a client's tips and they all thought I wasn't normal for refusing to be tipped, the truth is that I felt belittled, because of the way they was getting getting the tips, more like a force stylish way and in such working g condition it always means you will eventually gets overused by the customers that often tip you because of over-familiarity and I wasn't up for that, I rather stick to my pay and maintain my dignity.
My children's hair stylist is also one person I tip more often, because of how I love her service and as a way of encouraging her to not relent, I remember when I didn't have the extra cash, she outright asked me o, funny enough, I couldn't even say no to her and just promised to give her some other time, maybe it because of how close we've gotten, working for me for over a tear that made me not to mind, if it was another person, I sure would feel offended.
In conclusion, tipping should be at givers will and not the receiver feeling entitled to it.
