growing up as a kid, nobody defined Anger for me,no one told me what the aftermaths of Anger would look like. I wasn't informed that a pain that comes with regret, would be felt greatly after an act of Anger is carried out.
The only expression I could remember was a raise of eyebrow, opening of eyes, biting of the lower lip, and a furious vibration.
WHAT IS ANGER
From my experience, I can now say Anger is an emotional feeling of pain, that comes with an unhappy expression. it boils down to the marrows and even The blood cell. It can be argurably controllable and sometimes uncontrollable.
THE GENESIS OF MY ANGER
At childhood, nobody paid attention to my anger, everyone assumed that I was just a child. I discovered that when I became a teenager, I discovered that my friends started to avoid me because they claimed I get provoked easily, and I would easily make a mountain out of a mould.
It got to the point that I felt I was not loved, so I became pained, and summoned courage to question my Dad in his room one morning. I asked him what could be the cause of my Anger? He replied me that it was a part of my temperament, and it could be traced to heredity. "You took over your mum so he said" hearing that, I got vexed up again, and left his room. I was aware that this anger has added no single advantage, but why was I still uncontrollably caught up with the act.
THE VERY PAIN ANGER CAUSED ME
There is one incident, that anger caused me I will never forget.
After my secondary School education, there was no money for me to further my University education immediately, so I decided to apply for a linear job for the main time. I wrote an application for the position of an assistant primary School teacher. On my way to submit the application, an incoming vehicle splashed me some dirty smelling,stagnant water. I was highly provoked. But discovered that the car stopped by to apologise, behold it was a woman, she came to Apologise, but before she would complete her Apology sentence, I yelled at her. "disgusting bitch!! Keep your apologies" with my furious look and vibration, I pushed her into the same stagnant water she splashed me, and then I ran away. Suddenly I became calm, and I felt bad and remorseful. I would have listened to her apology so I thought within me, but I couldn't turn the hands of the clock and time. After submitting my application, lo and behold three days later, I was called for an interview. When I entered the office where I was going to be interviewed, the body of employers was headed by the woman I pushed into the stagnant water the other day. Because my conscience wasn't clear , I ran out of the office. Phee w!! see what Anger is causing me again!!
It became clear that anger had made me loose a lot of things, people and opportunities..
HOW I HANDLED MY ANGER
Having understood that Anger has caused me more misfortunes and good, I decided within me, to be deliberate effort to curtail it. I needed to ask questions again. So I went to my dad again, "what trait have I inherited from you"? He said peace. I paused and pondered. What has my Anger got to do with peace?.
My Dad gave me some Advice, that helped my life.
First of I was advised to be intentional about changing my ways, and pay deaf ears to statements that I would ordinarily had over reacted to.
I was also advised not to react when I'm vexed, because those actions or words would definitely come with regrets. "An egg broken can never been gathered in it's shell"
And thirdly, I should strive to be at peace with all men. Peace and forgiveness is better.
With the three advices, I made deliberate efforts to stop whatever action and reaction that would not bring me joy
Conclusion
In a nutshell, the fruits of anger always comes with pain. It's capable of spoiling relationship, and adds no benefits.
Picture of me in a state of pain caused by the outcome of anger. Shot with iPhone 7plus.