It surprises me how people come to conclusions about things that have to do with others even when they have zero idea about who that person really is.
I have been wrongly accused a lot of times regarding my relationship with females. It has happened countless times and it is still happening even though I have withdrawn a lot due to what's happening in the world today.
A lot of people have lost their lives because they were judged wrongly and the rate at which people get jealous these days is out of control.
I wish a lot of people understand that some traits are natural and the people who possess them have no ugly agenda when exhibiting that trait in them. My mom didn't bear a female child and this made me love the female children around me. It is usually not just me pouring out love to them, I get love back from them in abundance but a lot of people do misinterpret my relationship with females.
Over a decade ago, a young girl was brought to our house. Her stepfather told her mom he didn't want her in the house anymore and my mom agreed to take her in. The excitement of having a female child in the home was just too much and we showered her with so much love.
We didn't allow her to do anything in the house, we washed even her dress and she became fond of us. Her mother settled things with the stepfather and she was allowed to return. That day, I remembered crying when the girl started shedding tears because she was leaving and that should tell how natural it is for me to care about females. I direct the same energy at the male but it is more toward the female because I always see them as something fragile.
I can't say what made me develop that act but I can tell that being raised by my mom made me have a soft side for females.
Many times, I have been falsely accused of my relationship with females but the ones that hurt most are incidents that had to do with people I called friends.
I had a lot of enemies in secondary school, girls were always flocking around me even though I wasn't good-looking. I have always had this calm nature and it makes them feel safe and free around me.
I teach them and share things with them but these things were misinterpreted by male students and many of them got into fights with me for trying to snatch their girlfriends. I didn't have a girlfriend and after some time, they realized that my relationship with the girl was neutral and there were no strings attached.
It isn't just the guys, some females thought I was into them as well but they were wrong.
When I was working as a printing press contractor, I met this beautiful lady who was also a contractor. We became friends and called each other for jobs whenever we got one. Our friendship was strong and whenever I was going to work then, I do plan for two and she did the same as well.
She is a good cook and I enjoyed eating her food then. Sometimes we spend weeks together at work, we share the same bed space because we use just one mosquito net due to insufficient resting space in printing factory.
Looking after her was just normal and I could have done it to anyone. I wasn't aware she had grown feelings for me and was just expecting me to confess my love for her. I started noticing when she would hug me passionately at work but I felt I was foolish for thinking that way.
Things went on like that until she came to work somewhere close to my hostel after I got admission into the polytechnic. She called me and I went to hustle in the evening for some cash. We worked till late at night and after work, she told me she was going to pass the night at my place.
Firstly, there are five guys in the house and I was having a night reading with some ladies which included my girlfriend. I tried talking her into lodging in a cheap hotel but she insisted.
We got home and I introduced her to everyone. She was too clingy that night and my girlfriend wasn't cool with it.
The other girls asked me why I brought a girl home when I knew my girlfriend was around and I was completely confused. They left that night with my girlfriend to study somewhere else, but the guys were seeing me as a champion for bringing a girl other than my girlfriend to the hostel.
Everyone misinterpreted the situation and to make it worse, my friend who was the reason for the whole drama tried getting me to have sex with her overnight. I made her realize that we are just friends and I wouldn't do much with her.
She accused me of toying with her feelings and I made her realize that I wasn't having feelings other than being friends. It was a long night and I had to beg her if my behavior toward her had cost her anything.
She left in the morning and I didn't get to hear from her again. In 2019, I got a call from her and it was about her child's christening. She apologized but she didn't honestly didn't offend me in the first place.
I was able to explain the situation of things to my girlfriend and she has dealt with a few more issues like that. I have tried holding back my nature around females but somehow, this trait keeps popping up.
So far, I have been able to define my relationship with females, and I handle people based on how mature they are.
