A lot of things happened to me in 2022 and it would be foolish of me not to hold on to the lessons life taught me. It forcefully taught me some lessons after I failed to get a clearer picture of what it was from the onset.
One of my terrible habits is having a nonchalant attitude toward things.
The things that would piss a normal human off wouldn't even make me blink because of the things I have experienced in life. Sometimes even my family gets angry about the way I handle some things because I find it difficult to cut ties with people completely. No matter how I feel offended by people's actions towards me, I still choose to forgive than keep malice with them. The communication might not be as it use to be but I always do not see any reason to break off with people completely.
I have always known that humans are unpredictable but that belief doesn't apply to everyone in my life. There are some people in my life that I always thought they are predictable until they show me who they really are.
I had a group of friends from childhood and we kept that friendship even after our secondary education. At a point, everyone started complaining about just one person among us.
It became so terrible that the friendship started breaking up because of one person. I tried holding everyone together but I didn't have the strength and resources to do so. I still see everyone as my friend but it wasn't the same situation for others.
The person who has been the reason for the breakups was still my friend because I wasn't taking any of his actions seriously. They called him greedy, selfish, and different names but it didn't bother me.
After graduating from the polytechnic, I started hunting for jobs. This guy was already working in a big organization so I told him about it but he turned me down. It meant nothing to me, I have experienced bigger rejection so it didn't bother me.
Some months later, his sister graduated and got a job in the same company but in another branch. I was surprised but didn't stop being his friend. Earlier this year, his sister wanted to get married and he told me about it. I was really excited until he told me that there will be attire for the event which would cost about $70 and after calculating what my expenses for the event would be, it was over $130.
I tried though but I couldn't meet up, I spoke to him as a friend but he started avoiding me. I have been unfriended by a lot of people who do not know how gigantic my responsibilities are, I can't squander $100 when I have bills to pay.
The marriage passed and he just cut ties with me like I meant nothing to him from the onset. Around October, one of our friends asked if I was coming to the same guy's wedding and I said I didn't even know he was getting married.
I was shocked and my belief about some people been predictable around me was wrong. I believe he was very predictable but I was wrong, and till this moment, he hasn't replied to my Christmas wishes to him and his family.
Another scenario happened just yesterday, my neighbor who moved to her house invited me.
This woman was someone people told me not to even mingle with because of her way of life. They said shitty things about her but being who I am, I don't see many things as a surprise because I have seen worse.
I didn't get too close or far away from the woman since she was my neighbor, we greet each other and help each other as well. Her husband lived abroad but many didn't know.
I didn't know as well until the man came around, she told him a lot of good things and the man became fond of me. They have a mini flat in their new house, and the woman and her husband suggested that I move in there to save me rent.
It was surprising to me and I had to turn down the offer because I live with my family and moving from a three-bedroom flat to a mini flat is impossible. The man said he was going to something else just to show appreciation.
The woman was predictable to many people, she is bad, she is this and that but I didn't let it get to me. At the end of everything, she proved that humans are unpredictable.
Sometimes we expect good from people and get the other side of it, in some situations it is always vice versa. Having the mindset that humans are unpredictable will give the strength to always carry on easily after seeing the ugly side of people.
