|Tristeza| La p茅rdida de alguien amado 馃挃馃枻驴C贸mo afrontarla? [esp/eng]
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English 馃嚭馃嚥
|Loneliness| Death of a loved one What now?
My dear friends of emotions and feelings, I greet you from my love, hoping that everything is going very well in your lives.
Today I want to talk to you about the loss of a loved one, when they pass on to another plane outside (depending on your spiritual belief).
We all have losses; as children we lose our favourite cuddly toy, a tooth and tell me when we lose our innocence with the existence of the lord of the gifts, oh my goodness, does anyone prepare us for that? Not at any time.
I think it is at that stage where there is no accompaniment in the face of loss and so we go through life, losing without explanation or consolation because "it's part of life" 馃枻馃挃.
Speaking of losses, then there is also the loss of loved ones. How difficult it is to say goodbye to someone we love, esteem, cherish and who one day is no longer there for us.
It is even difficult to write it without shedding a tear or letting go of the keyboard for a moment to breathe and continue the story, I confess this as I write.
Espa帽ol 馃嚮馃嚜
|Soledad| Muerte de un ser querido 驴Y ahora qu茅?
Mis queridos amigos de las emociones y sentimientos, les saludo desde mi amor, esperando que todo est茅 marchando muy bien en sus vidas.
Hoy quiero hablarles de la p茅rdida de un ser querido, cuando pasa a otro plano fuera (seg煤n sea su creencia espiritual).
Todos tenemos p茅rdidas; desde ni帽os perdemos nuestro peluche favorito, un diente y digame cuando perdemos la inocencia con la existencia del se帽or de los regalos 隆V谩lgame Dios! 驴Alguien nos prepara para eso? En ning煤n momento.
Pienso que es en esa etapa donde no existe un acompa帽amiento ante la p茅rdida y as铆 vamos por la vida, perdiendo sin explicaci贸n o consuelo porque "es parte de la vida" 馃枻馃挃.
Hablando de las p茅rdidas, entonces tambi茅n se cuentan la de los seres queridos. Que dificil es decir adi贸s a alguien que queremos, estimamos, amamos y que un d铆a ya no est谩 all铆 para nosotros.
Es incluso hasta complicado escribirlo sin soltar alguna l谩grima o que suelte el teclado un momento para respirar y continuar el relato, confieso esto mientras escribo.
Historia de una p茅rdida
"Lo m谩s seguro que tenemos en la vida, es la muerte"
(Alguna vez lo le铆 por all铆).
"Mi sentido p茅same" en realidad 驴Qu茅 ser谩 eso? Si usted sabe, por favor aclarelo porque ni sentido le encuentro.
Hace una semana est谩 burbuja cambi贸 porque muri贸 una t铆a.
驴Qu茅 pudo pasar?
驴Qu茅 se pudo haber hecho?
驴Qu茅 hubiese pasado si se hubiese hecho tal cosa?
Story of a loss
"The surest thing we have in life is death".
(I once read it somewhere).
In my case, my life has not been full of close human losses. I don't know if it's because of luck or ignorance, but when I was little, I had my grandparents alive (supposedly the first to be lost). I lost them as an adult, but beyond accompanying my parents, it was not something that had any effect on my emotions because they were not very close. I congratulate all those who remember them with love and affection 馃挮馃懘馃馃懙馃挮.
Most of my uncles, cousins, brothers, are alive Thank the Lord! And those who are no longer on this plane, said goodbye as I see it "with notice", leaving no surprise and no taste.
That situation had not happened and when I saw someone who suffered a loss I just said:
"My heartfelt condolences" in reality What will that be? If you know, please clarify it because I can't even make sense of it.
A week ago this bubble changed because an aunt died.
I'm not going to say she was my favourite aunt because that would be a lie and even disrespect her memory. What is certain is that she died and as a family, we were united in that moment of grief.
I can say that she suffered, the disease consumed her, her family and protector did their best to preserve her life, the doctors worked against the clock, however, she left this world when we least expected it.
What could have happened?
What could have been done?
What would have happened if such a thing had been done?
I wish I had an answer, although I believe that what happened is the only thing that would have happened if other actions had been taken or done.
What now?
Suffering, sadness and pain are present at this moment. The hours of agony, the guilt, reciting the person's last moments over and over again as if it were a movie, keeps these emotions at the "surface".
I think I felt sad and I identified myself because now as an adult and mature I thought: Who will mourn me? Who will remember me? How will they remember me? What will my death even be like?
It is inevitable to think: Who will be the next person? Because there I could notice that most of my affections already have grey hair, pains and complaints, and their almanacs already have bills 馃懘馃馃懙.
Thinking about this I say "death has come for others, but I'M STILL ALIVE AND I'M STILL HERE" so what am I doing for myself today?
"Giving condolences", "accompanying in grief", "writing encouraging messages, uniting as a family were some of the actions we have taken in the face of this unexpected but inevitable event.
Now, your children, husband, granddaughter? Those who truly suffered the loss? Now what is left for them?
I recommend you do what you want to do; if you want to cry, do it, if you want to be alone for a few days, do it, if you want to be sad, be sad because you lost a loved one and that hurts.
I would also tell them that before living with guilt or accusation, live in action, and in the memory of everything possibly human that you did for that person, for that loved one. You cared for them, you fed them, you clothed them, you gave them some unique moments, so feed on those beautiful memories.
And finally, if you feel that the situation is overwhelming you and is altering your health, even though it is a loss, seek help, grief must be treated so that you do not remain tied to that pain.
Y 驴Ahora qu茅?
El sufrimiento tristeza y dolor es algo presente en este momento. Las horas de agon铆a, las culpas, recitar los 煤ltimos momentos de la persona una y otra vez como que fuera una pel铆cula, mantiene a "flor de piel" est谩s emociones.
Yo pienso que me sent铆 triste y me identifiqu茅 porque ahora adulta y madura pens茅 驴Qui茅n me llorar谩 a mi? 驴Qui茅n me recordar谩? 驴C贸mo me recordar谩n? Incluso 驴C贸mo ser谩 mi muerte?
Es inevitable pensar 驴Qui茅n ser谩 la siguiente persona? Porque all铆 pude notar que mis afectos la mayor铆a ya tienen canas, dolores y quejas, y sus almanaques ya pasan facturas 馃懘馃馃懙.
Pensando en esto digo "lleg贸 la muerte para los dem谩s, pero YO SIGO VIVA Y SIGO AQU脥" por eso, 驴Qu茅 estoy haciendo por mi hoy?
"Dar el p茅same", "acompa帽ar en el dolor", "escribir mensajes alentadores, unirnos como familia fueron algunas de las acciones que hemos realizado ante este acontecimiento inesperado pero inevitable.
Ahora 驴Sus hijos, esposo, nieta? Los que verdaderamente sufrieron la p茅rdida 驴Ahora qu茅 les queda?
Yo les recomiendo hacer lo que quieran hacer; si quieren llorar, h谩ganlo, si quieren estar solos unos d铆as, h谩galo, si quieren estar tristes, esten tristes porque ustedes perdieron un ser amado y eso duele.
Tambi茅n les dir铆a que antes de vivir con la culpa o la acusaci贸n, vivan en la acci贸n, y en el recuerdo de todo lo posiblemente humano que hicieron por esa persona, por ese ser querido. La cuidaron, alimentaron, vistieron, le regalaron unos momentos 煤nicos, entonces alimentense de esos recuerdos bonitos.
Y por 煤ltimo, si sienten que la situaci贸n los agobia y est谩 alterando su salud, a pesar de ser una p茅rdida, busquen ayuda, el duelo se debe tratar para no quedarse amarrados a ese dolor.
We are not eternal and death will come, yet despite knowing that, words of encouragement are not enough when you know that someone will not return.
That is why we must cherish every moment in the here and now, help those in need, share with our families, take time for ourselves, among so many actions that we would like to leave in the memories of others when we leave this world.
Let's not wait until we are no more, for regrets and guilt, let's live life with purpose and honouring those beings to whom we gave the best of ourselves.
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En honor a mi t铆a Coromoto y su vida, mi t铆a del Instagram 馃拹.
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