Saludos, amigos de HIVE en la iniciativa 18 de ¿Quién soy? nuestra amiga 
En nuestras relaciones interpersonales, por mucho que nos esmeremos para agradar a todas las personas con las que de una forma u sanas otra interactuamos, resulta que siempre por algún motivo encontramos señales de desagrado en algunas de ellas. Ante esta situación, si miramos hacia nuestro interior nos cuesta trabajo identificar la causa debido a que como actuamos con la mejor voluntad, pensamos que no existe motivo alguno que conlleve a asumir esa conducta.
Según mi modesta opinión, considero que valiéndonos de la asertividad debemos correr el velo de nuestras intenciones más sanas, para ubicarnos en el lugar del otro y esforzarnos por indagar la causa que ocasiona malestar en una o varias personas; o sea mirarnos desde afuera utilizando para ello un telescopio de lo asertivo.
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De esta forma pudiéramos encontrar algunos aspectos en nuestro proceder que debieran ser cambiados o al menos mejorados, lo que estaría encaminado hacia un perfeccionamiento en nuestras relaciones humanas. En este punto cabe preguntarse: ¿debo cambiar todo lo que no resulta del agrado de los demás? Creo que ante todo se debe realizar una validación de los resultados para determinar qué es lo que realmente requiere de nuestra atención, y en qué medida se debe modificar.
Un aspecto a considerar en el entramado de las relaciones sociales, es el hecho de que la personalidad es única e irrepetible, lo que conlleva a la existencia de una marcada heterogeneidad: hay a quienes les divierten los chistes y las bromas, mientras otros no los soportan; personas que hablan en voz baja y en esa medida les gusta que les hablen, etc.
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En mi larga trayectoria como profesor (desde 1972 hasta 2021), en mi relación con los estudiantes me esforzaba por tratarlos según sus peculiaridades, según era posible, lo cual contribuía a la existencia de un clima de afinidad que favorecía el desarrollo del proceso docente-educativo. A muchos de ellos no les gustaba mi puntualidad para llegar al aula, así como mi concepción sobre lo correcto.
También en otros ámbitos he notado desagrado ante opiniones que he expresado, debido a que no se avienen con sus concepciones, sin embargo no lo manifiestan explícitamente. En estos casos he buscado la oportunidad de, sin hacer referencia a lo acontecido, retomar el tema, abordándolo con una mayor profundidad en pos de una mejor comprensión. Estas situaciones me han impulsado a asumir posiciones más conservadoras, limitándome a emitir opiniones solo cuando me las soliciten.
Otro aspecto hacia el cual he notado cierta aversión es mi sinceridad, ya que detesto la hipocresía en todo el sentido de la palabra, por tanto a las personas así las trato a distancia y esto les molesta muchísimo, pero si actúo de otra forma me sentiría mal conmigo mismo.
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Who am I? #18. To assume what they don't like about me...
Greetings, friends of HIVE in the 18th initiative of Who am I? our friend
In our interpersonal relationships, no matter how hard we try to please all the people with whom we interact in one way or another, it turns out that for some reason we always find signs of displeasure in some of them. In this situation, if we look inside ourselves, it is difficult for us to identify the cause because, as we act with the best will, we think that there is no reason that leads us to assume that behavior.
According to my modest opinion, I consider that by using assertiveness we should draw back the veil of our healthiest intentions, to place ourselves in the other person's place and make an effort to investigate the cause that causes discomfort in one or several people; in other words, to look at ourselves from the outside using an assertive telescope.
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In this way we could find some aspects in our behavior that should be changed or at least improved, which would be directed towards an improvement in our human relationships. At this point we should ask ourselves: should I change everything that is not to the liking of others? I believe that first of all, a validation of the results should be carried out to determine what really requires our attention, and to what extent it should be modified.
One aspect to consider in the framework of social relationships is the fact that the personality is unique and unrepeatable, which leads to the existence of a marked heterogeneity: there are those who enjoy jokes and jokes, while others do not support them; people who speak softly and to that extent they like to be talked to, etc.
In this way we could find some aspects in our behavior that should be changed or at least improved, which would be directed towards an improvement in our human relationships. At this point we should ask ourselves: should I change everything that is not to the liking of others? I believe that first of all, a validation of the results should be carried out to determine what really requires our attention, and to what extent it should be modified.
One aspect to consider in the framework of social relationships is the fact that the personality is unique and unrepeatable, which leads to the existence of a marked heterogeneity: there are those who enjoy jokes and jokes, while others do not support them; people who speak softly and to that extent they like to be spoken to, etc.
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In my long career as a teacher (from 1972 to 2021), in my relationship with students I made an effort to treat them according to their peculiarities, as possible, which contributed to the existence of a climate of affinity that favored the development of the teaching-educational process. Many of them did not like my punctuality in coming to the classroom, as well as my conception of propriety.
Also in other areas I have noticed displeasure with opinions that I have expressed, because they do not agree with their conceptions, but they do not express it explicitly. In these cases I have sought the opportunity, without making reference to what has happened, to return to the subject, approaching it in greater depth in order to achieve a better understanding. In my long career as a teacher (from 1972 to 2021), in my relationship with the students I made an effort to treat them according to their peculiarities, as possible, which contributed to the existence of a climate of affinity that favored the development of the teaching-educational process. Many of them did not like my punctuality in coming to the classroom, as well as my conception of propriety.
Another aspect towards which I have noticed a certain aversion is my sincerity, since I detest hypocrisy in every sense of the word, therefore I treat people like that from a distance and this bothers them a lot, but if I act otherwise I would feel bad about myself.
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