One of my greatest treasure in life is my conscience. I don't like anything that can cause me to have a bad conscience or makes me feel guilt for a grievous error committed. Friendship/association is always a matter of choice and not force, the more reason i don't have too many friends as friendship involves aligned perceptions/values. Hence, i am not in a haste to make friends or have an associate even as this is reviewed/updated on a consistent basis if the alignment is unbroken. In the past, i have had reasons to ghost people who were not necessarily friends, maybe a associate or an acquaintance.
One of the top reasons for such is when the person is no longer in alignment or begins to do things which are inconsistent with what i believed or hold in high esteem i.e. treasure. Take for example, there was a flatmate of mine back then in the University some years ago. This person loves partying, ladies and talks vulgar. As much as i don't like to hate people, however, i maintained some distance with this person haven known that constant interaction with such a person will have a great negative influence on me. In addition, i soon find out how how this person goes into betting even upto using his school fees for that.
Another major reason i ghost people is when i found out that the person's manner of life or quality of life is degrading based on past choices and decisions probably from lack of understanding or pride to amend ways. There was this secondary school classmate that we graduated together and right before we graduated, we relates abit together though i have few reservations about some of his behaviors. After some years that we graduated and all left secondary school, the news and feedbacks about him weren't so encouraging and infact, it didn't seems he has changed. I sighted him this year in the neighborhood were i now stay with my family and i had to ghost him.
I believe that ghosting is quite different from hatred and this can be an inevitable tool sometimes as a preservation of one's life, heritage or something cherished. The truth is that we can't roll or be friends to everyone and no one is obliged to be under any organization or association against their will. Every decision made by anyone to associate or ghost should be a conscious one having weighed and thought well. Ghosting infact can be an object of peace in some circumstances and hence, can be applied as at when do. I have done it before and I have never regrected it even though i leave a slight chance of reversal in cases of positive development with such individual/situation. Life is all about making quality choices and decisions which ghosting may be part of at any time needed or required. Thanks so much for reading even as comments and contributions are welcomed.
This is my entry to @Hivelearners weekly featured contents, week 184 episode 01 on "GHOSTING"
