MY IMPERFECT PARENTS

As a child, my parents were perfect. So perfect that they were absolutely spotless in character, at least I thought so. I guess maturity happens at some point; it does not happen once but continuously. At some point, my faultless parents began showing some bad attitudes; in my innocence, I never expected that from them, but yet, they exhibited them. What I never knew was that my parents never changed; I did. It was just a stage, a stage I would overgrow; and only then would I understand.

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At my earliest cognitive stage, I saw my parents as completely perfect; an ideology that would change with time. As my cognition improved, I began to see their faults, and these faults were, for me, really irritating; they should not come from my parents, whom I considered perfect. They do not happen often, but quarrels and a little bit of raised voice from them would instantly change my mood. I do not know about my siblings, since I never asked them how they feel about the occasional quarrels, but I imagine they would feel bad too.

The continuous effect of maturity eventually made me realise that there is probably no way the quarrels will ever cease to be. I guess the line "the older I get, the more that I see; my parents aren't heroes" in the song "Older" by Sasha Sloan says it all. I eventually came to realise that my parents are not heroes; they are just like me. It was more about finding out that I too have faults, alongside every other human being on the planet; it was all about understanding reality. When I eventually understood reality, I discovered that my parents are the best in the whole wide world.

In the words of Sasha Sloan, "loving is so hard that it does not always work". In as much as those words are true, my parents loved, and it worked out really well for them. I would have eventually grown old enough to understand if they had failed; of course, they are human and imperfect. Maturity would have eventually taught me that, but thank goodness they did not. As a matter of fact, I now see them as role models.

You too can be like our parents, who never failed in their commitment to one another. It all begins with telling yourself the truth; only then would you eventually end up with the one that will truly love you. Things might have changed, but you will certainly know it when you meet that person who will be committed until the end. If you must let go of such a person, make sure the reason is worth it.

I am of the opinion that many relationships in our generation fail because people no longer consider the most important qualities in a relationship. Loving is already a hard thing; do not make it too hard for yourself by starting a lifetime commitment with someone you would not be able to spend the rest of your life with. Once again, when you eventually meet that person who will be committed until the end, do not let go for reasons that do not really count.

Happy Easter to you! I appreciate you and the fact that you have read through to the end. Thank you so much, and God bless you.