In my surroundings, I have seen many people dream of having children one day, but I don't think or feel the same away. It can't be my dream for sure because I do not have any desires for it. So, my opinion is completely different than the majority. Personally, I think the world is already rotten and it's not okay to bring a child into a world that is becoming more cruel every single day.
There's war going on, and you never know when your country is the next. Or you don't even know what kind of pandemic is coming in the future. People are sick they decided to pre plan a virus and release it, just to decrease the numbers of people on earth. I don't think that I would be able to see my loved ones dying infront of me, I am always worried about their safety. Other than war there's violence and crimes. People get away after crimes because they are more wealthy and in a way the sufferer are the poor people.
Next we are facing climate change and as you already can see there's way too much earthquakes in recent time. Venezuela have suffered the most recently and it's a heart breaking news. Moreover, the problem of poverty and people becoming more selfish than ever. Not everyone but most of the people they only care about their benefits only.
Every day there is another sad story on the news. Child rape, abduction, trafficking and many more traumatizing incidents are occuring rapidly. To be honest, I don't feel safe outside anymore. If I don't feel safe, how will I guarantee that my future child will have a safe life? At this point, I don't see any reasons of bringing them to the world. Well, I can try to protect them but I can't bind them at home or cage them like a bird, isn't that right? why should I bring them into this world if I have to panic all the time? Children eventually, feels suffocated when there are so many rules and boundaries. In the end, because of these, they don't feel the attachment with their parents anymore.
Another reason, I have seen many people become parents for the wrong reasons. I know not everyone is the same but that's not the point. I'm only talking about the people who does that so no need to make it all about yourself. I need you to listen to my reasons quietly. So, I think the majority of the people do things like that. Some people have children because society expects them to and they don't want to handle the pressure anymore. My thing is if someone is pressurizing you then you should shut them out of your life if there's a way. There's no need to keep unnecessary relationships which only spreads negativity.
Okay, so I have so many reasons to go. Some people wants a kid because they want to continue their family name or pass on their genes. Which I think is a selfish decision, that's not how it's supposed to be. Some people have misconceptions that having children is the next step after marriage and then their partner wouldn't leave them. That's not true at all, even after having a child people leave because you can never control what the other person will do. There are so many divorce cases which makes a child's life tougher. In the end, there's a few people truly ask themselves whether they are ready to become responsible parents.
Parenting is something people should learn before becoming a parent, they shouldn't take it lightly. So, these repeat the same toxic behaviors that they experienced while growing up and they think it's the right thing because they have lived the same life before. As a result, many children carry emotional pain and trauma for years. When these kids become adult they pass the same problems to the next generation. As you can see it becomes a never-ending cycle.
I also dislike the idea of parents placing huge expectations on their children. I saw parents they were taunting their children because they were not doing the things they expected and later they would say, "As a child it's your duty to listen to us, we are your parents. We have spent so much money on you." So, they would put guilt trap and make them do the things the child does not want to do. The child did not ask to be born, right? So, eventually carrying the child's expense is the responsibility of the parents. But these parents make it seem like they have done a honorable thing in the world and now their children needs to pay it back. I believe, a child should not be born just to make their parents proud or to fulfill dreams that their parents could not achieve. Children should be treated like an individual and they are not any kind of pet. They should never feel like they owe their parents a perfect life simply because they were born.
See? I have so many reasons. So, I have decided that I do not want to have a child. Some people may say that I will change my perspective when I am older. But I would say they are completely delusional, because I have felt this way since I was a child myself. I never liked the idea of marriage or pregnancy. I don't see those as my dreams. Those desires never belonged to me.
I will be honest, I never dated anyone and I do not wish to do it even in the future. I don't feel like other people that I would need someone to give me happiness or complete my life. I believe I can live happily in solitude and I don't need someone else's shoulder for that. I don't care what others has to say about it, because it's my life and my decision's. I know not everyone will agree with my opinion and that is normal. Anyway, I'm not throwing my opinions at someone, and I am not saying that someone should follow the way I am leading towards. They can follow a different path because it's their personal choice, I have nothing to say. As, I believe everyone has the right to make their own choices. So, yeah I can't think of bringing a child into a world where I can't promise them safety. To me, choosing not to have children is an act of responsibility.
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