Looking at where I am today, I can only thank God for the man I have become. Have I achieved so much? No, have I gotten to where I want to be in life? Not even close, is life easy? No.
But despite life's rollercoaster, I am still standing. I didn't pay any tuition fee, yet I have been learning, and I am becoming a better Version of myself.
If you look at your life, two years ago,you weren't like this; your mindset back then and now is different. Some of the things that interested you back then don't anymore.
You now understand life differently, and you react to things differently. In the process, you learned a lot, and you unlearned a lot.
Some years back, my parents used to say I will stop certain things like staying out late, keeping a lot of friends, and the likes when I grow older but I never believed them but here am I today, I don't find going out fascinating and I have only a few friends.
Life will shade a lot of things out of us as we grow, but it won't force the process; it will bring circumstances our way to make us let those things go. If you refuse, it will let you keep them to your harm.
It's as if every day we live, we keep seeing areas of our lives that are leaking. You fix here today, tomorrow, you will discover another one, and that is how we will continue fixing things till we become who we want to be.
I realized that, naturally, no human is built with everything he or she wants. Individually, we must work on ourselves to become the personalities we desire, else we would become like anyone else, being limited and tossed around by circumstances and people.
Recently, one of the things I have been trying to unlearn is being too nice. The society taught us to be open, calm, welcoming, and forgiving, which is beautiful, but when there is no limit to it, it becomes a problem.
I have been around a lot of people, had a lot of friends. I have been called “the nice guy” plenty of times. People compliment how sweet I am, but guess what?
Most people only care about themselves; if you give them a slight opportunity, they are already trying to use you for their advantage.
They will insult you, disrespect you, step on you, and manipulate you, and still smile. You show kindness, they take it as an opportunity to extort you, and they think you don't know.
Seriously, I am wondering how we got here. Well, I have drawn the line. It's not as if I am planning to close my heart towards people, but I am placing everyone where they belong.
Simplicity is not supposed to be stupidity; being nice is not supposed to place us at a loss. I have decided to combine being nice with wisdom.
It may sound like there is nothing wrong with being overly nice until it lands you in trouble.
Ever since I began working on this trait, I discovered that I am bold enough to confront anybody with a “no” whenever I am not pleased with a request or decision.
I have cut away from a lot of people, and they think I have changed, but it's not so; I just realized that their presence is keeping me in one spot, and I can no longer continue that way.
It is not wrong to be nice, but we must know when to draw the line; too much of everything can be bad.
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