I Ask For Help Only When Necessary

We are wired uniquely; there are things that can be easy for one person and difficult for another, and vice versa.

Sometimes our environments, family, and personal developments are responsible for these traits.

The truth is, everything in life has its other side, whether it is good or bad. But sometimes, the good ones are easy to cope with because the other side is just like a lesson.

I have had several experiences while growing up, some built me, and some reduced me. Sometimes I am tempted to blame my family for giving me low self-esteem.

While growing up, we didn't have the liberty to express ourselves. Even when you are right, you have to just find a way to swallow it because it is considered disrespectful to challenge someone older than you.

Being someone who is sensitive to words, I always return to my shell, avoiding disagreement or any form of self-expression.

I didn't know that it was eroding my confidence until I got to school and realized that expressing myself was a serious problem.

I had to start another journey of undoing that part of my life, and I am glad there has been a lot of progress since then.

How does my story relate to the prompt? Some people come from homes where love is showered on them.

Their parents and siblings loved them so much and came through for them whenever they made demands.

They ask for anything and receive it as long as it is within the capacity of their loved ones. Growing up in such a family will make it easy to ask for help.

There are people who come from homes where whatever you ask for is a problem. Before the parent gives anything to the child, they must complain, and they will talk and talk.

People who are sensitive to words may not really be comfortable with always asking for help in such homes, and when that compounds repeatedly, it becomes a habit.

For me, asking for help, especially financial help, is one of the hardest things. The last person I asked for financial assistance from was my father, and that was about four years back.

I can only take loans, and it's mostly from my mother. If I don't get it, I just let the whole thing go.

I am cautious about showing people my concerns. Some people can be funny; they can assist you and go ahead and broadcast it.

Some won't even assist you but will go around telling people about your situation, and that's what I don't like.

I prefer to suffer my conditions alone, and if it's beyond my strength, I kindly let it go. So far, I have been enjoying my peace because of this.

I don't go to anybody to seek any help; I suffer alone, I fail alone, and I win alone. People often ask me how I am surviving.

Some of my friends used to say I am proud because I don't ask for help even when I am in need, but that's me.

I don't want to dislike anyone because I set expectations and they fail, or because they shared my struggles with people without my consent.

The bad side to refusing to ask for help is that sometimes, opportunities will pass us by. Two heads are better than one; there are things we wouldn't fail if only we asked for help.

There are opportunities that won't pass us by if only we ask for assistance. Nevertheless, I prefer being the way I am.

But one thing you must understand is that I don't refuse to ask for help because I feel sufficient. Moreover, I ask for help but only when necessary.

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