Going back to lessons on the book 'Healthy Personality' by Sydney M Jourard, she discusses what separates those she tags as 'Self Actualizing people' who live their best life, from others known as 'neurotics' who don't.
You see no one carries the tag of a neurotic on the forehead. More often than not, neurotics have the same strong wills and creative urges as the self actualizing people. What separates the lot is that final push to produce positive reinforces. So why doesn't everyone have that?
It isn't automatically wired in us to be self actualizing. As a matter of fact, our body is inherently obsessed with routines and pleasurable tasks that it goes on auto operate Once such tasks are at hand. The road to self actualization requires a person to break this routine by eating the proverbial frog and learning a new skill.
According to Jourard, seeking to learn a new skill awakens our bodies dominant capacities and our abilities to cope with life.
It doesn't sound too difficult, until you try and realize just how much the body's love for routines makes it difficult to work with. That's where strong will comes in place though, the power of volition. Volition remains a myth until it is harnessed through nothing but discipline and dedication.