Hello, Hello my loves of Hive, today I want to start with a super important phrase for me that I heard some time ago in an advertising campaign, unfortunately I do not remember what campaign it was but it said:
You are you and that's your super power
Tal vez la leas y te pueda parecer una frase normal y tal vez hasta trillada, muy cliché, pero la verdad es que a mi me ayudó muchísimo cuando mas lo necesitaba.
El día de hoy quiero escribir acerca de algo que muy pocos hacen, quiero darle las gracias a todos aquellos que me enseñaron a amarme, no porqué me amaron, si no porqué a pesar de ellos yo misma aprendí a hacerlo.
Maybe you read it and it may seem a normal phrase and maybe even trite, very cliché, but the truth is that it helped me a lot when I needed it the most.
Today I want to write about something that very few do, I want to thank all those who taught me to love myself, not because they loved me, but because in spite of them I learned to do it myself.
Día a día veo en familia, amigos, redes, chicas y chicos decaídos por alguien que no los ama, ni los respeta, pues ¿saben qué? denle las gracias y sigan adelante, SÍÍ denles las gracias y sigan su camino, esta persona les está enseñando que deben amarse a ustedes mismos primero y dejarlos a ellos atrás. No dejarlos solo por que no te aman, si no por que realmente no te hacen ningún bien. Y no, no me estoy refiriendo a ese amor de pareja solamente, me refiero al amor de hermanos, amigos, familia entre otros, me refiero a ese amor que le diste a tu mejor amigo y que no pagó con amor si no con traición, me refiero a esa mejor amiga que rompió tu corazón cuando habló mal de ti.
Day by day I see in family, friends, networks, girls and boys who are down because of someone who does not love or respect them, well you know what? thank them and move on, YES thank them and move on, this person is teaching you that you must love yourself first and leave them behind. Not leave them just because they don't love you, but because they don't really do you any good. And no, I am not referring to that love of a partner only, I am referring to the love of siblings, friends, family among others, I am referring to that love you gave to your best friend and he did not pay with love but with betrayal, I am referring to that best friend who broke your heart when she spoke badly of you.
Es simple si alguien no te suma que tampoco te reste, sigue tu vida sigue adelante ámate, sé fiel a ti misma/o y no dejes que alguien más, ni su trato te definan como ser humano, usa eso para crecer y para convertirte en quien quieres ser. A diario leo que somos la generación que mas repite que soltar es bueno y que no se aferra a nada, pero mi pregunta es ¿te aferrarías a algo que duele? ¿te aferrarías a una bomba a punto de explotar solamente por que eso esperan los demás? ¿no verdad? lo mismo pasa con las personas, debemos saber cuando irnos, cuando dejar de esperar y cuando dejar de sostener algo o alguien que en cualquier momento te podría soltar.
It's simple, what doesn't add, takes away, go on with your life, go ahead, love yourself, be true to yourself and don't let someone else or their treatment define you as a human being, use that to grow and to become who you want to be. Every day I read that we are the generation that repeats the most that letting go is good and not to hold on to anything, but my question is, would you hold on to something that hurts? would you hold on to a bomb that is about to explode just because others expect it? would you? the same happens with people, we must know when to leave, when to stop waiting and when to stop holding to something or someone that at any moment could let go of you.
Here are some tips that helped me a lot.
- Learn to identify these deals: I know that many people do not realize when someone else is hurting you and destroying your self-esteem, learn to identify it.
- Use that learning to say **no more**. DON'T EVER LET THEM REDUCE YOU! **YOU ARE MORE SO YOU DESERVE MORE**.
- Get out of that relationship, it can be family, friends or partner it doesn't matter just cut off that relationship that makes you feel less.
- Promise yourself not to let that define you, remember you are not what others say about you, you are what you do day by day, what you talk about, how you treat others, your essence, that's who you are.
- Heal: heal your wounds, learn that the other speaks from what they see in **themself**, because we all give what we have inside if they treated you badly and criticized you is because they see themselves reflected, so none of that defines you, it only defines that person. **The one who has love gives love and the one who has hate gives it.
- Love yourself, be happy, and free, always, be grateful that you can get out of there.