I had a conversation with my partner earlier today about this topic. To be honest genuine love has become increasingly rare in the younger generation.
The reason I think it is like this is because social media has transformed the way people connect and the way people see things.
So many young people just want that quick connection without having to take their time and get to know and invest time in building meaningful relationships.
Another one is that love nowadays is measured by the amount of material things they can get as for the ladies. As for the men, some of them just want to play around. Don’t get me wrong here, I’m not saying there is no genuine love again but, I’m saying it is becoming so rare that even the people who take their time to get to know each other are also falling apart.
People now compare their relationships a lot to what they see online forgetting that social media is not real life. They also forget that we all are dealing with humans and we don’t expect perfection. Mind you, this is not me saying you should settle on being with someone regardless of what your deal breakers are.
Another thing I have come to realize is that Many people are afraid to open up emotionally because they fear being hurt, they are so scared of being vulnerable making it difficult to find true love. They avoid being vulnerable, which prevents them from forming deep connections with other people. And this fear often leads to superficial relationships, where people prioritize protecting themselves over finding genuine love.
As I mentioned earlier, social media is not real life. Social media often show love as a whirlwind romance, making people expect unrealistic levels of excitement and passion. This usually causes cause disappointment when faced with the realities of relationships, making them more likely to give up at the first sign of difficulty. Mind you, there are passions and romance but not often as very much geeky as movies make it seem.
People just want to love based on how the other party makes them feel and not based on commitment.
Women are now focusing on material things and seeking approval from others. Many women, have been taught to judge a partner's value based on their money, status, and looks. This is creating a culture where love often comes with conditions, with individuals looking for partners who can provide a certain lifestyle or comfort.
P.S. I’m not saying you should date an ugly person! Please you have to be physically attracted to someone you love or want to date. I’m not also saying you should settle but what I’m saying is that it shouldn’t be 100 percent based on these conditions.
On the other hand, many men have been taught to see relationships as a way to achieve something rather than as meaningful connections. They focus more on physical attraction, sexual experiences, or emotional boosts instead of building real emotional bonds. This has led to a culture of "players" and "hookup culture," where relationships are short-lived and not taken seriously.
Finding genuine love requires being willing to risk getting hurt or rejected. This takes emotional maturity, resilience, and a willingness to learn from mistakes and grow.
To the people who have found genuine love never joke with them, hold them tight, and act right!
In the end, true love is rare and valuable in today's world. But by understanding the importance of emotional connection, rethinking what's important to us, and embracing vulnerability, we can build meaningful and lasting relationships that bring happiness, purpose, and fulfillment to our lives.
Thanks for your time.
