Seeking The Help We Need

When it comes to asking for help, people vary and differ. Yes, we as humans have diversity in behaviour and choices on several matters, so this isn't a special one to say. But I see it as one that requires or needs some necessary conversations and maybe attention. While it's easy for some people to ask for help, for others, it's nearly an impossibility, for some reason. Looking into the matter and having these conversations can open us up to why there is clear diversity in human actions on a common matter.

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While seeking help isn't a bad thing, it's hard for some people. It's not just an easy thing to reach out and seek help. They would rather strive hard and get it or not, but asking for help is a far-fetched option. On the contrary, some have it easy within them to ask for help. The former can be interpreted as a case of pride, but sometimes it's not. It could be a function of how a person was raised or their fear of inconveniencing others. There are good and reasonable reasons for such a position, but not always the best.

I do caution my friend that the “lone wolf” life isn't always the best. Reason being that, we're social beings, and we need to relate with people, which by extension brings about seeking and receiving help from one another. We can't do it all in life, so we need others. Whatever the status of one's family or where they come from, we all need others. Some things will certainly necessitate help from others. Funny enough, I wouldn't be loud on this some years back. I wasn't one who would really ask for help. But I had to learn.

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Even with that, I don't just ask for help anyhow. It has to be really necessary; a situation where I can't help myself and not that it's just convenient for me to ask for that help. It has to be that I tried to address the matter but couldn't, so I subscribe to the help of another. And when I seek that help, I ensure not to just go for anybody but trustworthy individuals who can come through for me without making a fuss about it. That's something I think we need to be mindful of even as we need to ask for help.

When I seek help, it's not with a sense of entitlement. I read a post where the person said that, he doesn't get angry with people for not helping him because if it was that easy how come he couldn't help himself? That's a beautiful perspective on this matter. And as much as we need to seek the help of others, we also need to be ready to reciprocate. That's something I consider and decided to live by. If someone takes it upon themselves to help me, I should do so for another. This isn't about relieving myself from guilt, but because it's a shared duty.