Asking for help is something that seems easy, it is not always easy to do, for me asking for help is not something I do easily, it feels strange, to me, I am the kind of person who likes to figure things out by myself, i do not like to ask people for help.
I do believe that people can help me and I do trust people, It is just that I am used to doing things on my own, I like being able to take care of my problems and I like to try to solve them by myself, I have a way of thinking that says I should try to do things and if it works that is good and if it does not work I will try again, now asking for help is something I do when I have no choice, I only ask for help when I really need it, asking for help is not the first thing I do, it is the last thing I do.
And even when I finally decide to ask, it is not just anybody I will go to, it has to be someone close to me, someone that actually understands me, Someone I don’t have to start explaining my whole life story to before they get the point, Because for me, comfort matters. If I don’t feel safe opening up to you, I would rather just keep it to myself and manage it somehow, One benefit of this approach is that it has made me strong in a way, I have learned how to handle things on my own, think through problems, and not panic easily when things go wrong, there is a certain confidence that comes from knowing you can rely on yourself, it builds resilience, You just get used to standing on your own two feet.
Lets be honest here, because living like that isn't always the best way, Sometimes I drag things out longer than I should because I don't want to ask for help, I stress, overthink and try solutions when a simple conversation with the right person could fix everything quickly..... That's one downside.
Another thing is that keeping everything to myself can be really tiring, I might look calm on the outside, my mind is racing on the inside, it is funny there are people, around me who want to help, they don't know I need it because I never say anything , I have realized that asking for help does not make you weak like some of us think, it actually shows you're aware of your limits and smart enough to ask for help when you need it, nobody has all the answers, no matter how they seem.
These days, I’m trying to find a balance, I still like being independent, that part of me won’t change, but I am also learning that it’s okay to not do everything alone, It is okay to lean on people sometimes, especially the ones who genuinely care about you, so yeah, I won’t say I find it easy to ask for help, not at all, but I am getting better at it, little by little,nI’m learning that life doesn’t always have to be a solo journey, sometimes, letting someone in can actually make things lighter.
