Growing up,my Father always say it in my ears ‘’Chichi’’ as he fondly calls me, you must be tough. Being girlish and being ladylike is not an excuse for weakness". This he still says to all of us. All the children were raised to do the "masculine" as well as the "feminine" tasks. My sisters and I started winding to start a 5KVA Leister generator as soon as we got one. I learnt how to wash a car (internal and external) before the age of 16. I started learning driving immediately after secondary school.
My Dad told me that before he allows me drive out independently, that I must learn to change car tyres. I remember I was forming ‘’ajebutter’’ and my Dad said to me "If you are driving on a lonely highway and you need to change your tyre, what would you do? You will have to get down and change it.... that's the common sense thing to do. It's a survival skill for drivers.
My brother? He started washing the dishes as soon as he could reach the sink and handle the dishes. He started cooking simple meals before the age of 10. He started washing his socks and under wears before the age of 7. He started handling his laundry before the age of 11, when he had to go to boarding school. In my house, the rule was (still is) that anyone who eats must be able to get involved in the kitchen, when required.
My father tells me I can be president, not first lady. There is nothing wrong with being a first lady, but there is also nothing wrong with being the husband of the president.
Thus, if you tell your son that he can be president, you should also tell your daughter that she can be president as well.
The hidden but significant psychology behind this is that telling your daughter that she can be president pushes her to be great. While telling her that she can be a first lady pushes her to marry a great man, and probably reduces the needed inspiration to aspire to exercise her maximum potentials.
We need not teach our girls/ daughters to believe that the best they can be is to exist under the success of a man, their husbands.
It is disfavour to humanity to raise your sons with the impression that he is better than the females. Raise your daughters to understand that they are not inferior to males.
Teach your sons to be as domesticated as your daughters and push your daughters to attain financial independence as much as you push your sons. This way, we will raise a less entitled and more responsible generation, equipped with all vital survival skills and with less handicaps.
Charity they say, begins at home, not in the office or at work place.
Lets please resteem this post to the world over the hills and valleys…everywhere. Before I forget,big congratulations to France for lifting the FIFA 2018 world cup trophy once again, and to Croatia, you fought like a man! bravo France!!!.
