Loneliness - Have you ever felt lonely? Do you think there is any difference between being alone and feeling lonely? What advice would you give to someone who is feeling lonely?
Loneliness would have killed me in 2021. Though being in the midst of family members, i still felt lonely because people around me doesn't really understand my feelings back then. I had no one to comfide with. No one knows what am passing through even under one roof. I kept crying morning and night and still i wasn't noticed because loneliness is all about emotions. It's left for someone to understand your pains before you will be free from loneliness. So, i have felt lonely several times. First, i had a misunderstanding with my immediate younger sister who insulted me mentioning my flaws. Honestly i felt a deep pain in my heart. Throughout one week, i was feeling lonely because i was passing through emotional pains. While being lonely, i was crying and praying to God to help me overcome the pains in my heart.
Difference between feeling lonely and being alone
Being alone is well understood. It can be defined as a state of being alone without no one around us. Maybe one needs to be alone for a particular period, he might go to a mountain or a pleasant place to view the nature or meditate on something. In this case, is a state of being alone, doesn't need disturbance. While loneliness can be very dangerous because it affects you even when you are in mist of people. For example, a student might be in school and when he looks around and finds out that his friends weren't in school, he will start feeling lonely because, the people who understand's him is not there. He might not feel comfortable playing with other students. You will see him isolate himself. Though many students are there, but he is feeling lonely.
When i was passing through loneliness, what helped me was prayers. I talked to God with tears. I stopped isolating myself because that alone would have killed me. I started associating with people, i played some music's, shared my feelings and thoughts with a dear friend. Eat and had enough sleep. I equally cried and free my heart when i couldn't hold the tears anymore.
So i have this peace of advice to anyone feeling lonely.
- Don't isolate yourself from people. Share your feelings with a trusted friend or a family member.
- Loneliness kills appetite. Endeavor to eat well no matter what.
- Play some cool musics. It's good for your heart and calms the brain.
- Take some walks. Move around to see what's going on around you.
- Have enough rest.
- Is not bad to cry. Free your heart by crying. Once you can't hold the tears, infact don't hold it. Cry it out and you will definitely get yourself back. While crying, mention those feelings to God, he will help you overcome loneliness.
If all these things are being done, believe me, the loneliness will disappear.