Hello, dear Steemians!
As much as we hate to admit, arguments are an inevitable part of our daily social life. So long as there are people, and these people gather in a confined space, there is always a chance for arguments to rise.
Arguments are normal in both business relationships and personal ones. One day you may get into an argument with your coworker and one day you may find it difficult to cope with your loved one.
Whatever the case, we as human beings tend to argue. But the way we carry ourselves through an argument tells a great deal about what kind of a person we truly are.
I’ve already talked about how sometimes we can be accidentally mean to one another.
Coming up with cheap and fallacious comebacks during a heated argument is also one of the many times we can be accidentally mean to people we know.
In this blog post, I want to go through several of these cheap comebacks that do not really paint a good picture of your character.
More importantly, they throw the argument into more difficult and unbearable paths.
After a while, you find yourself in a whirlwind of mess that you have created because of your arrogance and lack of logical assessment.
Think about these concepts so that you are able to carry yourself gracefully the next time you have to argue with someone!
The first is using absolute terms. Let me paint you a picture with an example.
‘You always try to bring up the past!’
‘You are never competent to do your job properly!’
A lot of us are in the habit of using the terms ‘always’ and ‘never’ during a heated argument. Nothing is achieved by this other than the fact that you irritate the other person and make him question your logic.
After that, the argument takes a bad turn because you have proven that logic is out of the door and is not an option through this discussion.
You can be sure that the other person will somehow retaliate by coming up with something equally illogical!
‘We will continue this discussion when you find it possible to think logically!’
Some people use this fallacy to trap the person they are having an argument with. Accusing someone of acting or thinking without logic can only increase their rage and anger.
The thing is, when you are having an argument, you should not try to take the high road and assume that you are better than the other person.
When you accuse them of being illogical, they tend to get irritated because you are not lending anything useful to the argument, you are just accusing them of something that cannot even be proven because it is in itself a non-negotiable absolute.
‘There is no need to become angry!’
‘Why are you irritated by this?’
‘Why can’t you let this go?’
Accusing someone of getting angry, irritated, or clingy just because they are showing signs of agitation is yet another cheap comeback that can destroy your argument or push it in a terrible direction.
Consciously think about the sentences that you just read.
The next time you have an argument, make a note of not using these cheap comebacks.
The result of this is much healthier arguments and discussions that actually lead to something, as opposed to leaving everything in ruin.
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