In this world full of uncertainties, I am one of the millions with a bunch of insecurities. There are moments in my life when I was too afraid of the audience because I am not confident enough to face the world where people give various comments and opinions about you, whether they know you or not.
It was hard trying to live with society's standards – where beauty depends on how lighter your skin is and how you got the perfect curves on your body. Some people love judging others because of their physical appearance or the things they cannot do. To some victims of bullying and labeling, this is a cruel world, and they cannot change how society wants to control everything around it.
As I have seen how life turns upside down, I know that storms only visit in some months of the year, but the calm and scorching hot summer will also show up. It only means that challenging times will only come once in a while, then better days will come after that. Growing up with the idea of how society works and how people easily throw assumptions about someone, it became my weapon to survive.
Some people told me I was not good enough.
Most of us are familiar with this line as it seems to be part of living in this world. I remember feeling so hurt upon hearing discouraging words from somebody who has no idea how much I am trying to improve and be better. But talking back is not my thing. I could not defend myself by explaining that I was doing something too, yet I wanted to let my actions and achievements do the talking on behalf of my tongue.
I am not beautiful in everybody's eyes.
I am aware of the idea that not everyone would appreciate you, your looks, or your personality. Some will tell you that you are not beautiful enough and even describe you with offensive words. I know that some people do not see me as a lovely woman, and that idea did not stop me from still appreciating my uniqueness despite the negative comments.
I have heard too many harsh words from my friends, relatives, and others. At first, I was a cry-baby and was emotional as I took them personally. It was a hard pill to swallow whenever you see people close to your heart discourage you and even judge you when they should be the one supporting and protecting you. But as I think of them individually, I realize that being weak will only satisfy them.
I became a strong, independent, competent, and confident woman. All because of how people took advantage of my soft heart, kindness, and love. Sometimes changing yourself and how you view life is not bad at all, especially if you are doing it to improve your version of who you are.
Self-love is the first step toward achieving your better self. You can start by accepting what you cannot do and embracing your flaws and imperfections. The second step is looking at the bigger picture or trying something new. It would be best to discover what else you can do. Lastly, repeat the two over and over again. Loving yourself and finding your strengths can lead to the self-improvement you deserve. You will achieve being the person you want to be.
Let your good deeds and achievements stand out in this world full of competitions instead of blabbering about them to people. Sometimes society will make you feel you don't belong, but do not let your guard down and ensure that you become a competent individual.
When someone starts to belittle you, build up your confidence and prove them wrong. There is no other satisfying feeling than showing people what you've got.
Thank you for reading. See you on my next blog!
Blog #14
Date Published: August 20, 2022