I AM A SURVIVOR from an abusive upbringing, which led me to an abusive relationship as an adult. This downward spiral of events almost killed me many times, in the literal sense. Without going into gruesome details, I will summarize:
I took my kids and ran from that environment and relationship.
Homeless, in hiding, no car, no job and no one to turn too. The only thing I could think of was my children, if something were to happen to me they would have to be stuck with this mentally and physically abusive person or at the mercy of the system and in foster care if I don’t leave.
Myself, I was already dead inside so risking what may happen to me if he caught me was the chance I had to take.
Fast forward, 9 years later, I have a car that’s paid for by me, I have a house paid for by me and a great paying job.
As for a relationship, I still can’t trust myself not to be attracted to the same type of abusive person and I am not willing to take the chance. I had counseling and I continue to enjoy being alone, making my own decisions and enjoying my life. I do not need a relationship to feel fulfilled in my life.
As for my children, they do see their father, but after he got out of jail due to me reporting the abuse the night I left, he was sentenced to court ordered counseling, best thing ever. My children choose to not have over night stays with their father but they do have a relationship with him.
My children told me they hoped for a divorce and they respect me for the decision, which they were the main reason I stayed for as long as I did.
My ex husband and I have an amicable relationship for our children.
I use to not want anyone to know my story because I did not want anyone to view me as weak but now I see I am far from that.
Now, I was hoping my story will reach at least one person whom may be in the same situation to have faith, believe in yourself and know that there is a better solution. Take charge of your life, stop minimizing the situation,most importantly love yourself enough to make the change. I know I love myself twice as much as I did before.
I AM A SURVIVOR! And so are you!
Love and light to YOU and everyone.
If you are the one person that needs help, I am here for you, connect with me through my Facebook account which is located above in the profile area, anytime.