前天贴子里提到了李亚鹏，昨天正好就收到分析李亚鹏原生家庭的帖子，可能是大家最近都收到了李亚鹏搬家的新闻，所以开始集体关注他的囧境。这个时候我倒感觉自己不应该“落井下石”了，因为之前他也并不是我特别喜欢的长相的演员，所以我基本上没有太关注他到底在投资什么领域，发什么财，只是粗浅的从一个炙手可热的演员去判断他不应该去从商，当然这个观点可能也受了之前看过的某篇帖子的影响。毕竟对于普通人来说，能够当知名演员就已经祖坟冒青烟了，干嘛还要去胡乱折腾呢？
事实上，演员中从商的也是非常多的，有一个我觉得特别帅，也很喜欢的演员，依稀还记得名字叫任泉。有一些影视作品，我看过的可能也就那么一两部，也去从商了，据说投资商业的项目，还比较成功。为人还特别低调，基本上现在很少看到关于他的报道，又或者最近这么些年也遭遇了事业的滑铁卢，但是也都没有收到过任何推送。又或者我没有去主动关注过，这里想说的意思是从事商业必然会有风险，大概也不会有什么谁就适合，谁就不适合的，这里也希望李亚鹏能够转危为安，处于低谷的时候，也能够向上而生。
就如同上班和创业，就是非常不同的系统里的。上班特别出色的，不一定创业就很顺利。有时候以为自己掌握了什么独特的资源或者信息，但其实也有可能是别人设计的局罢了，如果没有经过调查和研究就all in了，那很可能会走入绝境，这点而言，没有特殊性，谁都有可能会深陷其中，无法自拔。虽然商业的风险不可控，不过可以控制的是自己的欲望，但其实这点也很难做到，谁看到绝佳的机会不会想all in呢？但是真正的all in 之后，是福是祸，又哪里能由自己定夺呢？日拱一卒，说不定还是另一种从容和幸福呢。
之前我还在网络上发帖子批评过的一个老赖，创业无数，但是无一例外的都以失败告终。后面通过直播带货开启了人生的高光时刻，说是自己要赚钱还债。贾乃亮在直播带货这块就做得挺好的，很多明星现在不拍戏了，也都开始做直播带货了，说不定挣得比拍戏还多呢。当然不知道李亚鹏会不会走这条路，如果论代表作的话，他的代表作会比贾乃亮多一些，知名度应该来说会更高，但不知道他以前的粉丝是否会买账了。总之，天无绝人之路，希望有一条适合人生存下去的路，一条出路，社会的包容性是绝对可以的，师出有名即可。
关于原生家庭这个话题，无非就是男人找妻子是在找妈妈，女人找丈夫是在找爸爸之类的，这个说法，不管怎么样来说，都是没有问题的，甚至于放在谁身上都是准的，国外的心理学家就是这么说的。别说原生家庭不幸福的人了，即使原生家庭幸福的人也未必不是如此。看多了这些视频就会发现，这些博主卖的都是相同的药。我也在想是否应该取关部分心理学博主了，每天听到这些陈词滥调，已经不是很新鲜了。专注的学学一些课程，可能会更好，不然有种被这些博主反复拿捏，嚼舌根的风险。
English translation by AI for someone who is interested in my post but from other countries:
The day before yesterday, I mentioned Li Yapeng in a post, and yesterday I coincidentally received a post analyzing his family background. Perhaps it's because everyone has recently received news about his moving, so there's been a collective focus on his current predicament. At this point, I feel like I shouldn’t "kick him while he’s down." After all, he was never an actor I particularly liked in terms of appearance, so I didn’t really pay attention to what he was investing in or how he was making his money. I mostly judged him superficially, thinking that as a popular actor, he shouldn't have ventured into business. Of course, this view may have been influenced by a post I read before. After all, for an ordinary person, just becoming a well-known actor is already an achievement; why risk it all by venturing into business?
In reality, many actors do venture into business. There's one actor I think is very handsome and I like a lot—his name is Ren Quan. I’ve watched a couple of his films, and he also went into business. It’s said that his business investments have been relatively successful. He’s very low-key and hasn’t been in the news much. It’s also possible that in recent years he has faced a career downturn, but I’ve never received any news about it. Maybe I haven’t actively followed him. The point here is that business inherently carries risks, and there’s no real way to say that someone is inherently suited or unsuited for it. I hope that Li Yapeng can turn things around, and even in his current low point, he can rise up.
Just like being an employee vs. being an entrepreneur, they belong to very different systems. Someone who excels at a regular job might not necessarily succeed in entrepreneurship. Sometimes, you may think you’ve mastered some unique resources or information, but it could just be a trap set by others. If you dive in without proper research and investigation, you might end up in a dead-end. This isn’t something special; anyone could fall into it. Although the risks in business are uncontrollable, one thing you can control is your own desires, though that's also very difficult to do. Who wouldn't want to go all in when they see a great opportunity? But once you really go all in, whether it leads to fortune or disaster, who can decide that? Perhaps moving forward step by step is another form of tranquility and happiness.
I once criticized an "old debtor" on the internet. He tried countless entrepreneurial ventures, but all of them ended in failure. Later, he made a breakthrough through live streaming and selling products, claiming he was doing it to make money and pay off debts. Jia Nailiang has done really well in the live-streaming business, and many celebrities who aren’t acting anymore have turned to live streaming, making more money than when they were acting. I’m not sure if Li Yapeng will go down this road, but if we’re talking about representative works, he has more iconic works than Jia Nailiang, so his fame should be higher. But I’m unsure whether his old fans will support him now. In any case, there's always a way out; society is quite accepting as long as you have a legitimate reason.
Regarding the topic of "original families," it’s often said that men seek a wife who resembles their mother, and women seek a husband who resembles their father. This theory is universally applicable, even to those with a happy family background, and foreign psychologists have said the same. Watching these videos, you’ll realize that many content creators are selling the same ideas. I’ve been wondering if I should unfollow some psychology influencers because hearing the same clichés every day is getting stale. It might be better to focus on learning some structured courses instead. Otherwise, there's a risk of being manipulated by these influencers and constantly being exposed to their repeated narratives.
