I wouldn't even like to imagine this being in a good relationship, that is about to lead to marriage and boom we both find out that genetically we don't match, the fear of what people might think if invitation cards had already been distributed to friends,
If I am faced with this type of problem, I will first of all pause, I won't end the relationship immediately but I will pause the marriage plans. Many thoughts will be going through my mind both negative and positive. The positive thoughts will be "if I go ahead to marry this guy, we will give birth to only two children and perhaps both will not be SS but AS as their parents and live goes on.
But come to think of it, trying to play smart with sickle cell anaemia.Sickle cell is not just a medical condition but a life long battle, a story of pain and survival written in the blood of those that carries it. the disadvantages outweighs the advantages. Being married joyfully but when children comes it becomes crises, not just for you and your husband but also the child. The continous moving in and out of hospitals, spending ones life-savings trying to keep a child alive, the trauma that comes with that as a parents of a child with special need, the uncertainties of the childs survival,then the sleepless nights trying to pray to God for divine healing.
Then what about the child, the pain that this sickness comes with, the pain is not just physical but emotional and social. the pitying from neighbors, the fear of next crises, the pain he or she bears and the living on drugs almost throughout out his live journey. Oh no it doesn't worth it at all. It is only someone ignorant of the crises of sickle anemia that will say, love will lead.
After all these thoughts trying to compare both one will see that just a period of joy doesn't worth the long term and impending harm that the marriage might produce. Real love is all about trying to give yourself, your partner and unborn children the best, so I won't be selfish at the expense of my child's happiness and joy.As I have been living happily, they too deserve to live being happy
Although personally It won't be an easy decision,but the marriage will be called off not the relationship. We will see a therapist that will first help us regain our mental health and then it will teach me a lesson to always check for compatibility of all kinds because I go deeper in love, so as not to allow such repeat itself because it can truly traumatize a person. Although it might take time to heal but when i overcome the trauma of calling off the marriage, i will be very proud of the wise decision i made.
Dear hivers, am pleased to share this thought on love and reality with you all, engage and drop your thoughts too thanks😊.
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