There are people that are haunted by memories of the past. Events and things people did to them that have gotten a permanent real estate in their brains. There are events that are just unforgettable. For some it's their first or most tragic breakups, for others it was an accident that changed them forever, for some it was the loss of a dear one.
But one thing that can help heal you is to try to make peace with that past.
Making peace with your past is one of the most powerful things you can do for your present. It doesn't mean forgetting what happened or pretending it didn’t affect you. I doubt that is even possible especially if the thing that happened was life altering.
It means you choosing to no longer let whatever that happened control you.
Let's face it, we all carry regrets, mistakes or painful memories, but they don't have to shape our identity forever.
Always remember that you’re not who you were back the, you’ve actually grown, learned and survived. Even if you didn't have any significant achievement in the past, you've lived and I believe surviving is worth celebrating because some didn't, they're buried 6 feet under.
Why it's necessary to make peace is that holding on to the past can quietly poison the present, making it harder to enjoy what’s right in front of you. Forgiveness, especially of yourself is a true and authentic gift you give not to justify the past, but to free your future.
Healing is never about erasing the scars, it’s about realizing they no longer hurt the same way. Your present state is way too valuable to be haunted by what you can’t change. Let it go, step forward and give yourself permission to begin again. When you're able to do that, you start living rather than just existing.
