As humans, we get addicted to things easily, if you cultivate the habit of putting on new clothes to church every Sunday, after a while you will realize you won't feel like attending church services if you do not have new clothes to wear, the same thing with those that love dressing to oppress others.
Unfortunately, most of those people we are trying to impress do not even notice us, we might get the attention of a few but definitely not all because people have what they are thinking about, problems they want to solve, lives they want to live and those things are more important than them noticing you.
Life is hard already and caring about what others think about you only makes it harder, trying to please people's eyes on you might make you waste your resources.
The first step I took to free myself from social pressure is by not pretending to be who I am not
In the new area I live, I have a neighbor who is very friendly and she is an extrovert who loves to go out, so we talk and we vibe a lot.
One day, she called my number and told me she was on the Island and she saw some things and asked if I wanted to buy them, I asked her how much were those things and she was calling exorbitant price, my statement to her was that I don't waste money and I would prefer to buy my things on Mainland if it was someone else in my shoe, they would have shyly sent her money and buy the expensive thing all in the name to feel big in her eyes but I do not care about that.
One discussion led to another and I told her I do not like expensive things, I prefer cheap ones and I also revealed if not because I had no choice, I wouldn't rent an apartment worth 500k there when my former house, the house rent was just 36k annually.
She became more relaxed with me when she realized I was not one of those who live a flashy or fake lifestyle and she stopped bugging me with those expensive stuff and that was when she revealed some secret to me.
She lives a fake lifestyle too, like taking a commercial bus to the Island then ordering an Uber for a 5-minute ride to her destination which is trekkable so that those people can think she ordered the Uber from the mainland and so many other stuff too, she was comfortable telling me I was honest with her about my lifestyle.
This is just to prove that not everything we see is real, some people wear different clothes daily but the truth is they might just be borrowing those clothes, some might be in debt buying clothes just to oppress others, and some are wasting money so others can acknowledge them.
The second way I prevent Social pressure is by avoiding Negative People
Some people also think having money means one should lavish it.
Imagine someone asking me why I do not have a car when I have the money to buy one, If I am easily influenced by peer pressure, then I would get a car as well but what is the usefulness of the car if I won't be driving it because I have no important place to go with it.
I would just buy it and park it in the compound to please someone who does not have a car but thinks I need one because I can afford it.
Asking me to buy a car because I can afford it is not the negativity, but when it now gets to someone rudely telling you or trying to mock you with words like See your mate is driving cars as big as you are, you do not have this or you do not have that
I terminate such people in my life with immediate effect, Don't rush me, please! everything will happen at the right time not by me rushing my timeline because someone is not impressed with my life.
Words like that do not get to me, I spend on what I need
I do not fall under social pressure, I am a loner but never lonely, as long as I am living fine, eating well, and putting on the clothes I like, I do not care what others think about me, the goal is to be rich not to look rich
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