After a while, it becomes somewhat easier to simply see time as a mere construct. Not really an unrealistic figment of someone’s imagination, but more like the pressure that comes with knowing that time is passing.
When you work closely with time, everything that you do seemingly becomes tied up around it. It will be a focal point in everything that you do, and when others seem to be achieving things within the same time frame that you have but are yet to achieve similar things, it begins to look and feel like you’re not making good use of your time. And boy, that feeling sure sucks; I can tell you this for free.
So, what do we do? We use strict timing in our academic life, professional life, and even with family. We have hopes and dreams of things that we believe we’re meant to have achieved by a certain time, and if we fail to meet our own deadlines, we could see ourselves as failures who don’t really have our stuff figured out.
Unfortunately, though, it doesn’t end there, because we project this same mentality to others and try to force our timing mentality on them. We believe that certain things should be done at certain times, and anything that doesn’t align with this mindset is a sure sign of failure, not just in a person but in their life as a whole. And for people with this mentality, it affects how they roll with others.
But then, for many of us, the main measure of time that we have is age. We have a certain age by which we want to be done with high school, and then done with college. We have a certain age at which we want to start work and then climb up the corporate ladder. We have a certain age at which we wish that we’d be married and also be done with birthing kids. We have timelines for everything, and that is a good thing. It stops being good when we make these timelines rigid and unrealistic to the circumstances at hand.
You see, life is unpredictable. And even worse, many of us live in climes that seem to thrive on breaking the hearts and souls of the people in it. Whether it’s your academic life, relationship, or career, the system will frustrate you to the point that you would feel it’s a targeted attack against you. But it’s not; life is just happening to you. And that’s why you find yourself missing all your timelines and schedules.
So, my dear friends, regardless of how much time you feel that you’ve lost, there’s still time for you. You can still make that change and become better. Don’t give up just yet. Because truly, the urgency of time itself is subjective and simply a mere construct.
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