Hello everyone, how are you doing on this beautiful Saturday? Another weekend is here again and we are relaxing and preparing for what is going to turn out to be a promising week ahead. We are hopeful, and we will surely work hard towards it.
There is something I would love to discuss with us today, one that touches me deeply. I had been in a conversation with a friend earlier today and the thought had crossed my mind. And I knew I had to share it with you all. And what is this? Personal Values.
We all are humans, and so that makes us social creatures. We are all wired in a way that we will always need others; they can be family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc. The thing is that all of them have a role to play in our lives. Many of them are not meant to stay, they are just meant to walk through, make their impact and then leave.
And it is in dealing with our fellow humans that the topic of my post comes into play.
Personal values can be said to be a way a person sees himself or herself. It can also be a set of rules and guidelines that a person uses to live life. These values are what will determine the kinds of decisions they make and the actions they carry out.
Personal values are not generic for everyone. It is different for every single person. That is why you would hear some people say things like, “you can never see me do a thing like that.” Or “I am that kind of person.” The way you value yourself will also be the way you do things and also the kind of things you will do. Because you will never do anything that you believe will devalue you, instead you will be looking for ways to increase your value.
So, how does this relate with other humans? When we socialize, we get to meet people who have values that may be different from ours, this does not make them any better than we are, or worse. It only makes them human.
So, as we go about our duties, we must make sure that while we deal with others, get to notice their value, we do not compromise our value in the process. It is never worth it. It is good and fine if you increase your value because of someone else, but it will be sad and unfortunate if you devalue yourself because of another person. Nothing good can ever come off it.
No matter how tempting or the pressure may be, you must stand your ground and resist.
Also, when you notice that someone else’s values are different from yours, that is not grounds for disrespecting them. You are meant to respect their wishes and how they view themselves, because they will also respect the way you view yourself. As long as they are not criminals and they are in no way harassing or inconveniencing you, then you should just let them be.
Not everyone will view themselves the same way you view yourself, and that is something you have to come to terms with.
And so, dear friends, as we go about mingling with people, let us know that no matter what if they are not adding value to us, then they should not be reducing it either. Matter of fact, we should not even be with them. Because we have to be with people who make us better versions of ourselves. And if we see someone whose values we do not like, it is not our job to try and fix or change them, we should just accept them for who they are.
Thank you for reading, till we meet in the next post.
