The thing about life hacks is that many times, when we discover them, we really don’t plan them. Most of the time, we just do them by accident, and then we realize that they actually work. And from there, we keep doing them and keep getting the same results. This is how codes are made, and for many, they teach them to their families and friends. And that’s how culture and traditions are made.
So yeah, we all have life hacks. We don’t always have to be the ones to discover them; sometimes, we simply have to see that it's working for others, and as a result, we choose to try them out in our lives. And if it works, we stick to it. If not, we simply leave it and move on. No stress, no mess.
So, for me, what life hack have I managed to get for myself within my short time on earth? Well, one thing that I know for sure is that I’ve learned a lot about people and how they relate with each other. People can be snakes, and they can say and do anything just to be seen as the good guys. People will lie to your face, proclaim they love you, all the while plotting your death in the background. And the frustrating thing is that, for many people, you might never really know in time. Until it’s too late.
So, what do I do for myself? I’ve learned to always believe people when they tell me who they are. No matter how light-hearted they may seem or how they make it seem like a joke, I never take such things lightly, especially when they tell me about who they truly are. If someone tells you that they really love money and can betray even their mother for it, for the sake of God, believe them. Because I will believe such a person! I might not comment on it, I might not break things off with them. But I will always be wary because I will always remember that this person could potentially be for sale.
Another trick I learned was that things said or done in the heat of the moment, especially anger, should always be taken seriously. If you’re arguing with someone and they hit you, or they say really hurtful things, know that it’s their true color! Don’t pass it off as them being angry and saying that they didn’t mean it. You’re only setting yourself up for more pain and hurt in the future.
The thing is, humans have this annoying habit of having to explain people’s problems away. We see the red flag, but we make excuses and give ourselves reason to remain. We conveniently choose to ignore the dangers, and when people around us warn us about said red flags and danger, we even attack them and see them as the enemy. Then, when things go wrong, we act all shocked and confused as if we didn’t know.
So, that is my hack! When people give you an idea of who they are, do not explain it away. Accept it! And if it’s something you can’t deal with, run for your life! Because there is no reward for knowing how to endure and live with snakes and scorpions. This is why I’d never really feel bad for people who choose to have friends who are toxic to them. They smile at each other, but once alone, they’d be complaining bitterly. Yet, they won’t cease the friendship. Just so crazy!
Well, I guess it’s just people being people. Let’s just do better!
