There are times people will approach you for advice, wanting to know how to go forward about a particular thing. However, when you hear about their situation, it seems like a slam-dunk scenario. And for the life of you, you just can鈥檛 figure out how they really can鈥檛 know the right course of action to take when it鈥檚 just so glaring and obvious.
And this is not about someone not knowing what鈥檚 right for them, this is someone that based on all the variables considered, they are meant to know better and as such act better for their wellbeing. But for some reason, they just choose not to and instead require the advice of someone else.
Stories like that are rampant all over social media, people will come online to ask for help in things that don鈥檛 make sense.
For example, a lady could live with an abusive boyfriend. This guy could be abusing her both physically and emotionally, however, whenever she tries to leave him he鈥檒l beg and promise her that he鈥檒l change. But all to no avail. Then, she鈥檒l come online for advice, asking if she鈥檚 doing the right thing by leaving.
Or a guy who is with someone who doesn鈥檛 appreciate him, no matter what he does. All they do is spend his money and call him only when they need him, yet he would still come to ask for advice to know if it鈥檒l be a bad decision to just leave it all behind. So many stories are all over the place, when you hear them you鈥檒l wonder how is this even a thing.
I鈥檓 not trying to put down anyone here. Some people have genuine problems and many of them share them online to find solutions. Yeah, I know that desperation can lead you to do things you鈥檒l never really consider. I鈥檓 not downplaying such people. However, I鈥檓 talking about the ones who have solutions right in front of their eyes yet they choose to ignore it. As if they need people鈥檚 permission before they act on what they know they鈥檙e supposed to do.
This is why there are some stories I鈥檒l never advise on. Such people will never really listen to what you have to say, they believe they know the solution already and they only need you to agree that it will be a great idea so they can move on. So, when you disagree with whatever scenario they created in their heads, you become the bad guy. So, forget the fact that they approached you for advice, they鈥檒l still do what鈥檚 on their mind.
Everyone is going through a lot, and after a while, it can become overwhelming. So, if they have spoken to those around them and they got no succor, they can easily come online and voice what they鈥檙e going through. In this day and age, you never really know where sound advice could come from.
Anyway, whenever you see stories like this, you can advise if you want. I鈥檓 not discouraging it. Keep on helping out wherever you can and eventually, you just might help someone make a life-altering decision.