What I envy most about what other Hive writers have:
- vocabulary (deirdyweirdy)
- discipline in writing high quality pieces every day (Tarazkp)
- having the most amazing eye for b/n photography (rg2-foto)
- keeping things short and on the spot in a way that almost hurts (Galenkp)
Kept this one short. Eujifferous!
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Yes, I had to look that one up, and I'm not sure it even exists. Apparently it appeared in a Dictionary in the 1930s once, combined out of the greek "eu" (good) and "jiffy". A good moment, so to speak. Things you learn when you want to sound smart, yet stupid. I think I hit that one right on.
And no, I won't keep it short. Sorry not sorry. Because it's not really envy, nor is it jealousy. I'm quite happy to be able to enjoy their talents with them, maybe learn a little here and there. I wish to have Riverflows talent for gardening/renovation/artwork, but at the same time, I love that she has it (as opposite to envy) and want her to keep it (as opposite to jealousy).
I like to be inspired by that, which makes Hive the perfect place, with nothing not to like. Plain perfect. Yeah, no. Now, after a while, I realize that I went through a hardcore Hive-school of perfectionists, which made me very aware of what is genuine interaction, and what is farming. And there is SO much farming going on. I try to see Snaps as fun and games, a good entry for newcomers, but the amount of comment-reward-farming is mere frustrating.
Same goes for AI created content and comments, which I've gotten better at identifying - but would love not to do so. The possibility of Hive to earn some money is also its Achilles heel, bringing in people focused solemnly on that, and not content creation and networking.
The latter being such an important part. And somewhat easy. If you want to find the right people, you can use the same rules as when dating:
Be genuine. You want the other person to like you, not whoever you impersonate to impress. Either you can impress as yourself, or the other is not the right one for you - or you have to work on yourself.
Read/Listen closely and attentively. You want to get to know the other as just that, the other, and that requires a lot of attention.
Only talk when you have something to say. Ask questions only if you're really interested.
The rest is flow. Sometimes you connect, sometimes you don't - no need to pressure connection. There are many people around that one can connect with, each in their own way. It's not easy, I admit. There is the urge to comment always. But I personally caught myself quite a few times answering in more or less the same words and arguments that I had prior commented on the same person's blog, on a similar topic. Then, it's time to move on.
Or to stay silent and contemplate. Think. Let the ideas circulate, and see if something else comes up.
Silence is a key in communication. Not only the listening silence, but the ability to really be silent with each other. Being comfortable in silence. More than just not speaking because somebody else is, but staying silent through a calm environment. To enjoy oneself in the void, all alone with thoughts. Or worse all alone with ones on thoughts and the other and their thoughts. A crowded silence.
That's the intro to a post that I found in my drafts. About reaching the confidence, complicity and congruence to be silent together. Without any awkwardness. Without having to keep talking. Being able to say nothing when there's nothing worth breaking the silence, nothing worth distracting from the deepness of a silent moment of being with the other. Not enduring the silence, but enjoying it as a moment of true connection.
It's the noise that disconnects us from each other. The superficial sounds that withhold us from hearing each other. Because we might not like what is there. It's easier to keep it that way, then realizing that this is not it. But when it is it, then yes, it's really easy to be silent together, it's joyful, even, pleasant, comfortable.
Enjoy the silence. That's how you know.
What are your thoughts about this topic? Please feel free to engage in any original way, including dropping links to your posts on similar topics. I'm happy to read (and curate) any quality content that is not created by LLM/AI.
Post written for the #weekend-engagement by 
This is my response to:
1/ Do you ever read about what other Hive users have or are doing and feel envious? Explain.
2/ What don't you like about Hive and why?
4/What three tips would you give your best friend prior to his/her fist date with a new person? Explain.
5/Awkward silence, or talking too much...do you do one or the other or know someone who does? Explain.
Thank you for reading!