Being betrayed is one of the most hurtful moments of life and it hurts more when you're being betrayed by loved and trusted ones. Betrayal begins from trust as you can't find betrayal without trust. Trusting someone means you've developed love towards that person, they know your happiness and weakness which makes it easier for you to be hurt by any careless action they make towards you.
This is why we all need to be very careful and watchful as we can't read the heart and mindset of others. Trust is an expensive gift which takes time to be acquired and it's not to be given to everyone, you can't blindly trust anyone who comes around acting all nice and lovely towards you because, you can't tell who sincerely is happy for you or faking it nor do you know their main intentions of becoming close friends with you. Some persons may genuinely love you and some may be there to spy.
I have made a very simple but strict rule in my life not to trust anyone to the point of revealing my weaknesses. Love everyone but don't trust as it'll hurt more when they do anything to you. The level of hurt you get from a trusted one is more painful than when you already expect things like this from them.
I don't give people the space and chance to hurt or betray me as I rarely trust. I may seem to believe but trusting? Nahhh. My roommate is still in so much pain right now because of this same trust issue that I'll love to share....
BETRAYAL BY A FRIEND
I and destiny have been roommates in the university for 2 years now and she's a very free minded person who is ready to sacrifice so much for you even if you just met. She has this charisma of showing love to others unwillingly and betrayal is not something that she deserves.
She met her boyfriend, or should I say ex馃檮 few weeks after we became roommates and to be honest, I didn't like him became I saw him as a proud, lazy guy who was just trying to take advantage of her innocence and he has a wide mouth, though he's good looking but he didn't deserve my roommate as a partner and I did tell and adviced her as a friend about his behaviors but it all fell on deaf ears and "don't worry Jennifer he's a good person". Indeed, one person on earth who would never take an advice is a lady who is in love.
She also had a Best Friend who always came around most times, bam bam was very nice that she always brought food and goodies for us too. She's a very funny type of person that easily said sorry even when she's not at fault. Late last year, I saw bam bam and destiny's boyfriend in the mall and I vividly remember that bam bam hid. I told destiny about it but she told me that her so called boyfriend was not in town. It was from that moment I started suspecting them. She was always complaining about him not giving her his attention but he'll always come up with excuses I saw as lame. But what could I do? Nothing
Recently, destiny was admitted in the hospital and they came together to visit her. It was quite suspicious but she didn't see it that way so, I decided to let her find out herself.
Just yesterday, I and destiny where on our way to receive her last injection. Before we left the room, she called him but he didn't pick up, when we left the room, she called again, he didn't pick up and just while we where about to enter a cap to the hospital, she was still trying his line when we both saw bam bam and her boyfriend coming out from one of the eateries in school, holding hands and he was with his phone, he looked at his phone, and ignored her call 馃槫.
I could see my roommate melting, as she couldn't speak. Not that I'm happy that this happened but I wanted her to see it herself and it finally happened. When they saw us, they just stood and no one could say anything. I had to take her to the hospital and back to the room without her saying a word.
Trusting people may not be intentional but try limiting the trust you have on people as you trust and don't show your weakness. Thanks for reading guys.