And the biggest form of betrayal was not to even joining in spreading rumors about a girl, but just believing and judging a girl based on what I hear from other people. I know I shouldn't just believe any rumor about anyone but I think it is way worse for girls. We live in a world where men and even other women use shame against women and girls, to punish, to isolate, and to confine a girl. Even just believing in what ever rumor they share, achieves their agenda. In this world, there is so little that I girl would do that would earn her backlash and hate, sometimes just existing is enough. In retrospect now, I see that I have betrayed so many girls by judging and believing in something that was most of the time fabricated or exaggerated for another person's agenda.
I wanted to tell my friend about a girl in my neighborhood, as I remember her, I remembered what someone told me about her ( it was obviously bad) and just as I was about to say it to my friend I asked myself 'how credible is this information' 'why did I believe so easily at first'. Then I retraced everything and I felt like I believed what the person told me way to fast. It just the person words, I didn't even hear that particular thing from anyone else. It might be true, but there's also a possibility it's not, so why drag her name to the mud.
Say I'm taking it too serious, I don't care, because it's not just gist or gossip, you might be ruining someone else's life, just one word can push someone over the edge. So before you believe or judge someone or something make sure at least you judge the right thing. Because rumors ruin lives.
It's Still Abeegail ✨💗
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