When blessings comes in disguise, it leaves one thinking that something has gone wrong somewhere. I believe that the reason for some blessings to come in disguise is because God may want to see how we will react to issues of life that does not appeal to us. We always wish for only good things to happen to us or anyone very close to us. When it is not what we are expecting, then it looks like it's not a blessing.
This is Week 79:- Edition 01:- with the topic 馃憞
Blessing In Disguise
*What is that one thing that looked and felt terrible to you, but in the end it turned out to be a great thing on your part? What's the story behind it?
Well, I have enough experiences where my blessings came in disguise with lots of trouble to go with it. I will be sharing with us the little ways that I have experience blessings in disguise.
First, I will love to share the experience I had when I was about to get married that later turned to blessings. When my husband to be took me home to his parents, you know as a way of introduction. I was immediately rejected because of ethnicity. My husband's people don't like their sons going outside to get married. Some of their reason is because they have a culture that people frown at. So, they just want it to be between themselves. But my husband insisted that it must be me or no one else. They refused and brought some of their girls to him so as to choose from them. All of that proved abortive. After a while, they asked him to carry on with the marriage, but they also told him that they will not be part of it. He accepted and came to our traditional marriage without his people. He only carried some people from where he lived and brought them to represent his parents. It was at that point that I began to sense that something is wrong somewhere. My husband did not open up to me. But we went ahead and did everything. When we got home I started seeing his siblings behaving strange to me. The hatred was growing by the day and no one related anything to me for me to have a clue of what is going on. But it didn't take time for me to discover that I am in a very big problem. I became very afraid and don't know how I was going to handle the situation. I can't even tell my people because I was asked not to go that far to get married, but I refused to.
WHAT CHANGED?
Alot began to change when their first son who instigated others not to come to my weeding was killed by his mother in-law. His wife was from that same village and so everyone was happy with her at first when the got married. But later on when she started having issues with having kids and started visiting prayer houses that told her that my mother in-law was a witch and responsible for her problems. After six years of their marriage, her husband died in a car accident. Story has it that her mother started confessing that she killed the husband of her daughter from her witchcraft. When the story got to my mother, she started loving and coming closer to me saying that it is even better to marry from outside and have someone who fears God than marry someone close to you that will take you to your early grave.
EVERYONE STARTED COMING CLOSE TO ME.
That was the beginning of how I became the best wife of the family. My mother in-law took me as her daughter and ally husband's siblings started loving me also. Today, in that family, every decision must pass through me. What so ever is happening must get to my table. As we talk today, my mother in-law and every member of that family trust me so much that even if I have any little problem with my husband, no one believes that I am at fault. They blame their brother first even before asking me what the problem is.
And what did that experience teach you?
I have learnt to be patient with people. Give them a little time and everything will be okay. Sometimes we don't allow people to make their decisions. We want to make the decision for them. No. Give them reasons to trust you and that will be the end of your troubles with them.
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