LOH Contest #145: Equality in Relationships (ENG-ESP)
(For some reason 馃槀) I am often asked for my opinion in regards to roles in relationships. "Who should do this?," "Who should do that?," with the biggest question always being, "Who should pay for dinner?! 馃槺" My perspective has been very simple... If you are in a relationship, you should both be working towards bettering not only yourselves, but your lives as well. In order to do so, you need to analyze what strengths each of you brings to the table!
(Por alguna raz贸n 馃槀) A menudo me piden mi opini贸n con respecto a los roles en las relaciones. "驴Qui茅n deber铆a hacer esto?", "驴Qui茅n deber铆a hacer aquello?", siendo siempre la pregunta m谩s importante: "驴Qui茅n deber铆a pagar la cena? 馃槺" Mi perspectiva ha sido muy simple... Si est谩s en una relaci贸n, t煤 ambos deber铆an estar trabajando para mejorar no solo a ustedes mismos, sino tambi茅n a sus vidas. Para hacerlo, 隆necesita analizar qu茅 fortalezas aporta cada uno de ustedes!
In the case of finances, I believe an equal amount should be given from each party. If possible, expenses should be split down the middle. The only exception being if one person makes a substantially larger amount than the other.
En el caso de las finanzas, creo que se debe dar una cantidad igual de cada parte. Si es posible, los gastos deben dividirse por la mitad. La 煤nica excepci贸n es si una persona gana una cantidad sustancialmente mayor que la otra.
Take my boyfriend and I, for example. He works and provides an income, while I am a stay-at-home mother of our two babies. Although I have been unemployed for a few years now, our family is blessed with a monthly child benefit from our government. In a way, this has become my contribution to our finances. I actively put money towards our children, our home, food, etc. Because we both bring in a similar income, most things are split evenly.
Tome mi novio y yo, por ejemplo. 脡l trabaja y proporciona un ingreso, mientras que yo soy una madre ama de casa de nuestros dos beb茅s. Aunque he estado desempleado durante algunos a帽os, nuestra familia ha sido bendecida con un beneficio mensual por hijos de nuestro gobierno. En cierto modo, esto se ha convertido en mi contribuci贸n a nuestras finanzas. Pongo dinero activamente para nuestros hijos, nuestro hogar, comida, etc. Debido a que ambos generamos ingresos similares, la mayor铆a de las cosas se dividen en partes iguales.
In the past, I was an avid feminist, and I strongly believed that everything-- everything --should be distributed evenly. Today, while I recognize that it is almost always impossible, I also recognize that there is nothing wrong with being more traditional. I love taking care of our home. I love being a mother. I have no desire to be apart from my children. If that means forfeiting my privilege of working and making an income, I am okay with it! 馃憤 And if it also means giving my boyfriend more control over the finances he provides us with, I accept it! To me, that is fair--that is true equality.
En el pasado, era una 谩vida feminista y cre铆a firmemente que todo, todo, deber铆a distribuirse de manera uniforme. Hoy, si bien reconozco que casi siempre es imposible, tambi茅n reconozco que no tiene nada de malo ser m谩s tradicional. Me encanta cuidar de nuestra casa. Me encanta ser madre. No tengo ning煤n deseo de estar separado de mis hijos. Si eso significa perder mi privilegio de trabajar y generar ingresos, 隆estoy de acuerdo con eso! 馃憤 Y si adem谩s significa darle a mi novio m谩s control sobre las finanzas que nos brinda, 隆lo acepto! Para m铆, eso es justo, eso es verdadera igualdad.
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