This is one topic that is very important and should be talked about every now and then. Coincidentally, my mom was still showing me a story earlier today about the story of a couple that has been dating for four years before finding out that they are not medically compatible. They were now asking advice on what to do, and the whole story just seemed so weird to me. How can you date someone for four good years and the matter of genotype and other nedical talks didn't even come up at all? I mean, isn't the awareness working as it should or they just want to blame it all on love? I want to believe this is a topic that is often talked about and people pay more attention to lately.
I saw a video of a sickle cell patient yesterday going through crisis and it was so hard to watch. No one deserves that kind of pain, no matter what. It is so unfair to put innocent kids through that kind of torture. Some couples will go ahead and marry, ignoring the fact that they are not medically compatible. If you ask them, they will say they love each other too much to let go or that they have invested too much in the relationship to give up and bla bla bla. They might seem like they have a strong reason to stay together but the reality still remains that it is a very foolish and selfish thing to do.
The best thing to do is to just prevent it from happening at all because it can be very hard to let go of people that you have actually formed meaningful bond with. So, to just avoid that kind of torture and heartache, it is just sensible to avoid it. Avoiding it means couples should actually make it an intentional act to find out early. Relationships are very unpredictable, you cannot assume that one relationship will lead to marriage and another will not. Infact, the first date question should be 'what is your genotype?', lol.
Honestly, it is just very important to ask and it is never too early. Feelings and attachments can develop rapidly and before it does, it is reasonable to know what you are getting into. There are some couples that actually opt for risking it and still staying together because of "love" and the truth is that, love cannot fix that for them. It is just reasonable to do what is right because at the end of the day, risks like that aren't part of the risks meant to be taken. While few people get lucky with it, many don't, and the aftermath is just always so sad.
I have seen and heard of children and adults dying because they inherited sickle cell from their parents. It is always so hard to hear because we all know these death could have been prevented. Couples should never ever think of risking it if they are not medically compatible, it is just pure foolishness and selfishness. I understand it might be hard especially if it is a relationship that has been going on for a while but they should just go their separate ways and look for better matches.
Thanks for reading ❤️