A lot of people have gone into their shells because the ways of the world have been set up to misunderstand others. We live in a world where everyone just wants to speak and very few are listening. A lot can be said in silence and many people have retreated from others because most humans lacked relations with one another. Relating with one another is a trait that everyone has to learn because a lot often get lost in translation.
Some people are terrible at being pointed out to things. I've noticed that a lot of people would rather react than responding and when you asked them they would say, they only want to explain things, clear the air or make others understand but how do you make others understand when you aren't even listening? How do you make others understand when you won't even be patient? How would anyone ever understand anything with a raised voice and cutting the other person off every time they want to speak? A lot of people put so much focus on what they want to say, how they want to do things and find it hard to step out of their comfort zone just a little more.
We need to listen more and listen well too. A lot is being said in silence which would take only a patient heart, an understanding mind and the sensitivity to deduce. Don Williams couldn't have put it in better than he did in one of his old classic songs: "After all the miles I have been through, just because I am in love with you. And there would come a day, you'd see. You'd have control over me, you can hurt me like you do, just because I am in love with you." - Don Williams.
He went a little further when he said; "For every time you hurt me, I get a little stronger and I would soon be strong enough to say goodbye." - Don Williams. We sometimes don't understand that the more we keep forcing people back into their shells, the more of them we are losing. They wouldn't be able to be as considerate as we want them to be anymore because their emotions are also being toyed with. A lot of people say one thing and then end up doing the complete opposite of it. We need to stop making people retreat into whom they once were which they didn't want to be anymore.
Not everyone is as strong as we see and maybe they are as strong as we see but we all have a limit; there is no one without a breaking point and the more we keep pushing it, the closer they get to that point of no return. A lot of people just want to talk and hardly overlook things. They feel it's all about their views and they believe so much in the value of their explanations as if those explanations would change as much as they had hoped, forgetting that they would end up saying things that would make things even more difficult.
Most humans lacked consideration for one another and this is another area we all need to do better and it's a pang of collective guilt we all carry barring the weights.
You never know how strong a person is just as you never know how easy it would be for someone to cave in until you push beyond the normal bounds and they cave in, retreat and never come back to who the world has now known them to be. We need to be more subtle, more tender in our approach because not everything has to be about us.
This post also appeared here and it's my original work on my blog on Read.Cash.
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