My next move would be to do nothing.
Honestly, this is a very delicate topic. One that messes up with your head. Because it feels like you're caught between two important crossroads, not knowing which to take.
But I know which road to take and If It ever happens that I wake up one morning and the only people I've known to be my parents all my life are not my biological parents, and I happen to have the adoption papers right in my hands as proof. I'm doing absolutely nothing.
You heard me right. I'm doing absolutely nothing but continuing to live my life like I have always been doing. Just carry on with my daily activities.
I'm not stopping my life or letting anything distract me at this delicate young age that I'm still trying to find myself and build a career.
Would I be sad? Of course, it is normal as a human being that I am, to be sad to hear such information. I will definitely have several questions twirling in my mind as to How? Why? Or even who my real parents are and their reasons for abandoning me (if they did abandon me).
Questions like: Did they die or are they still alive? If they are still alive then why did they leave me? Did they ever search for me?
I will try to find out my ancestry to know where I'm from, to know my people, to know if I'm Igbo or Yoruba or Ibibio ( again, all these natural and human instincts).
Other than that, with the kind of love my adoptive parents have shown to me every day of my life, treating me like I was from their loins right from when I was a kid, I don't think I will ever want to leave. Unless they want me to. But In a situation where they don't want me to leave, then I will gladly stay and enjoy every moment with them and try as much as possible not to let it bother me.
Honestly, this is not about what people will say if I leave my adoptive parents or if I don't go back to my biological parents. I am a full-fledged adult, and as an adult, I have the right to make my decisions. So, this is about what I feel and what I want.
Let us be truthful to ourselves: family is not just about blood but about who has been there for you. It is about people who have genuine intentions towards you.
So, even if you say, "But your biological parents are your blood,". My adoptive parents have done more for me than my blood has.
They made me feel valued and loved. They have never in any way given me reasons to doubt who I was to them.
So I'm definitely doing nothing but staying.
Unless my biological parents are the likes of Dangote or Adenuga, then I will do the needful. Haha.
Have a great weekend everyone.
