One of the hardest things is letting people one has a connection with go. So I believe that letting go of family with whom we feel we have a natural and in-built connection is much more difficult. But I am going to be sincere, we need to learn how to let people who aren't good for us go, no matter what.
I know some people would say blood is thicker than water and would want to stay with their family that hurts them, because they feel obligated to. But the funny thing is that people don't know the meaning of that saying; in fact, it isn't even complete. That is not the original saying. The complete one says the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. Well, actually, I haven't really confirmed the saying, lol. But it makes sense to me, and I choose to go with that one.
I haven't really had someone I call family who is absolutely not good for me that I need to cut off. But I am watching this movie called Shameless. It's a movie about a dysfunctional family. And in that movie, the character I hate the most is Frank, their father. I hate him because he is a horrible father, and he is so selfish and self-centered that he would be willing to sell his children for his own gain.
They all have their own problems, but I'm the movie Frank has caused them so much pain, including the ones they know of and the ones they haven't even found out.
But they never fully kick him out or cut him off because he is “blood.”
And he just keeps coming back to take advantage of any of his family members he has a chance to. He literally draws them back because he is too scared they would leave him once they taste a better life.
I believe if I were in that position, it might be hard for me, but I definitely would eventually do it once I see that the connection would be my doom.
I sometimes get the family might be drawing one back just because he or she feels that he cares so much. And that's when expression comes in. You need to let that family member know what is going on; who knows, it might just be a misunderstanding. But when the family member persists and just chooses never to understand or see things your way, then you just have to start considering if it is love, or just pride, or control. Once you have tried all you can, then I see it fit to cut the person off.
And I have seen in real life, people with their biggest enemies in life being their family members, their own “blood,” so I would say choosing a toxic family or one that deliberately keeps you stuck over personal growth isn't so much of a wise choice.
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