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As kids, getting liked by everyone was a dream, we always fantasize of how we will have the coolest friends that all liked us, how we will always be loved by our parents, how perfect our world would be. Unfortunately, life doesn't always work that way because you can’t be liked by every single -person, if you ask me, it is quite unnatural, the only way you can be liked by everyone is if you’re dead.
As we get older and start to see how tough life really, you begin to get the sense that getting a promotion, closing a business sale, or getting a date with the girl you is down to the most qualified person or the one that works the hards. This is not always true, as studies show that most decisions such as buying a product, promoting an employee and giving an admirer the chance to go on a date with you is all down to how much you are liked. Yes, all these professional decisions are based on emotional stimuli, do I like him or not?
Now, the task is, How do I become more likeable?
That is a million dollar question, some people are naturally born that way, you just like them for who they are. They may be funny, charming, caring etc. And that will always work out for them in getting along with people, but others are not born that way. This post for the people who are not born to be naturally likeable. Here are some things you can do to make people think well of you and give in to you.
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Although this may sound a little complicated, it is as simple as this three words “Being Warm” When someone is said to be warm and friendly, people tend to gravitate towards them. The takeaway here is not to become a clown or a jester, but simply to become more friendly to people, its a hostile world out there, people then to draw closer to persons that make them feel better about themselves and situation, and by becoming a person attributed with warmth and kindness, people naturally like you and want to be closer to you.
This can also be to your advantage professionally when you ask for a promotion, your boss being aware of how warm and kind you are, knows that the promotion is for the benefit of the company. And if you are qualified for the new promotion, you can be certain you will get the new job. The same thing works when you are trying to close a business sale, or asking a lady for a date. You are already liked, and a “Yes” will almost come naturally.
Control What They Think About, Right Before They Think About You or What You’re Asking Them
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This is a very important way of making everything work out for you good. A recent study created by a psychologist to prove this fact was set up where this guy, walks up to a lady at various locations, a shoe store, a bakery and a flower shop and asks her for her name and phone number. The study shows that the success rate was astronomically high when he meets girl in or around a flower shop than anywhere else. Because the flower shop has an aura of romance, warmth and love, ladies are more likely to be receptive to a guy's advances than the other locations which are the shoe store and the bakery.
You too can use this same strategy to manipulate the outcome of how people respond to you and what you’re asking from them. Be it a promotion, or asking your friend to be your girlfriend, or finally asking your prospective client to make a financial commitment. The takeaway here is to very deliberate in controlling your environment, in a way that makes it work for your good, or to your advantage.
Think of the Image you Project as an Individual
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The way you appear plays an important factor in creating a long lasting first impression. There have been several studies carried out to prove this fact, and the message is clear and many have accepted it as the truth. If you are going for a business meeting, it is wise to dress in a formal outfit, but it is also wise to accompany yourself with a writing journal and a pen, that will make the people you’re meeting with take your ideas more seriously. And take notes during the meeting, this will not only create a great impression about you, it will go a long way in helping that business relationship prosper.
It is not enough to justify these things without following through on the impression you’ve made, also put in extra effort to be committed in the things you say, be honest and handle your dealings with utmost integrity. This way, the relationship won’t just be at face value, identified goals will be achieved and strong and better business relationships will be foisted and above all you will be highly thought of.
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