Do you consider yourself attractive?
Maybe? No? Or a full-fledged yes?
I am one to appreciate beauty when I see it but for years, the people around me have wondered what I classify as beauty. I could literally throw my hands up in exhilaration while appreciating something that every other person thinks is awfully ugly.
Over the years, I've eradicated the word ‘ugly’ from my daily vocabulary. This is because I believe that it's not in my place to decide whether a thing is ugly or not.
Daily, the number of people who are insecure about themselves grow and not by a small number. We all have flaws and because of these flaws, we second guess ourselves. Why are my teeths irregular? Why am I suffering from vitiligo? Or why am I thin when my mates are healthy?
Recently, a person who I considered “very confident of her looks” suddenly became insecure. This young lady is beautiful inside out by society standards; a pretty face, a fine shape, and an equally beautiful brain. As she aired her insecurities to everyone, I was dumbfounded. If someone who is “normal” by society's standard is still insecure, what about those who the society constantly castigate because of their looks?
These insecurities can escalate from just a simple comment by a random stranger to a very severe health issue. Yes, our insecurities can have detrimental effects on us once we accept strangers views. This is one of the reasons why people go to the ends of the earth just to correct these flaws. Sometimes, it works out for them and other times, they are forced to live with something worse than the initial flaw.
It goes without saying that some of us make conscious efforts towards making people feel uncomfortable. They know very well that they have huge acne or black spots on their face so a remark like “eww, why is your face like this?” is not usually very necessary. Such remarks make people very uncomfortable even if they chose to hide their discomfort.
I guess all I'm trying to say is that we are all beautiful and attractive in our own way–irrespective of what people think. We just need to accept our flaws because they are ours. If they are eventually cured, great! Else, they are here to stay and there is nothing wrong about that. In no time, these flaws become part of our personality and if people cannot accept you for who you are, then that's their loss and not yours(Pun intended :).
A little advice would be: Instead of focusing on the negatives, try to focus on the positives instead and as you do so, remember that beauty is subjective.
The song “just the way” by Parmalee and Blanco Brown has a lot more to say about beauty imperfections. The song reminds listeners that no one is perfect! Everyone has a flaw but their ability to accept this flaw is what makes them stand out.
It's a beautiful piece of music to listen to when you begin to have doubts about yourself. Also, sending it to friends who have doubts about themselves would only remind them that you love them just the way they are.
I hope you enjoy listening to this masterpiece
