I have a question from my friend, he asked whether he should keep working or resign? The problem is, he is more than 30 years old. When he was in elementary school, I still hadn't learned to walk. What was it that made him mature so late until he didn't know what he wanted?
The answer is cognition, because of the vague knowledge of some fundamental problems.
The inability of most people to do something is beyond the understanding of some of the key concepts that affect life, and thus always fail to make the right decisions.
Back to my confused friend, no matter it's the relationship choice or the life choice, they have one thing in common: They get used to asking people what to do instead of asking themselves what to do. They were grown up but psychologically still a lost child.
They always hope that others will give them a way, hoping that others can provide a direct copy of life path, hope that others can give them a clear, existing solutions to their life problems.
They are like giant babies, unable to think independently, unable to make a firm choice, and fail to assess risks and opportunities. If some of their basic cognition is not established, they will always be a bewildered child.
But life will not allow them to be a bewildered child. Most of the 25 years old people have graduated from college and work for at least year. Before 25 years old, you can be righteously confused, but after 25 years old, if you still have things that are not clear, the society will not be so tolerant of you.
A person who is already an adult but still lost, needs a cognitive breakthrough. These perceptions are best established before the age of 25.
"Lead the race right at starting line" became a popular slogan. But when you think about it, this sentence has a big problem, it makes people have a kind of illusion, mistakenly think that life has an established runway.
Before going to college, we and our peers really look like on a runway. At this stage, you know exactly what's going to happen when a group of people go through kindergarten, primary school, and finish high school. So as long as you study hard and get good result, you do not need to make any choice.
Confusion is usually start when you are going to college, from that moment onwards, the choice of life is constantly handed to you:
Which college? Which major? Do you want to continue your studies after you finish your undergraduate course? Find a job around your hometown or find a job in the city? What industry do you choose to work for? Which company has the better platform? Who you want to spend your life with? Do you want to break up? Do you want to quit? When do you buy a house? ...
We started out together with our peers and ran apart at the intersection.
This time, you will find that the real life does not exist on a predetermined runway, the real life is an intersection. Everyone needs to find their own way, and find where they want to go.
In every intersection, each intersection has its own scenery and cannot compete as easily as like a runway.
Therefore, the success of life, not necessary be more successful than others, but to arrange your life pipeline with the things you good at and things you like.
What's the good of trying to figure it out?
If you figured this out, you will not put yourself and other people on the wrong runway and compete with each other. Your primary concern is not about winning in life, but is to find where you want to go, and find the path to the place you want to go.
People have a stereotype toward age, they thought that if they live long, they will know more.
But for me, I always felt that experience is not determined by age, but by the density of life.
Life is short, everyone will die, this is our faith. When death come, we will eventually lose everything. So the important thing is not about the result, but the process, because the process is the reward.
Life is actually an experience, you can choose to live the same way everyday, or live brightly and see more scenery, know more interesting people and experience more different things.
For me, I want to experience more differently things and not living the same way everyday.
Life is the underlying program code that guides our life choices. I became a reporter after graduated, and then resigned to enter a new media company, and then resigned again to start freelancing. I rarely get confused, because as long as I know how to spend my life, when facing with a variety of choices, my heart is clear like a crystal.
At the same time I will also get an excluding, defying dangerous courage: Life is an experience, I enjoy the experience, the gains and losses are not so important.
The realization of financial freedom should be everyone's dream. But how can we achieve financial freedom? The brutal truth is that most workers, with the exception of a handful of well-paid people, are unlikely to achieve financial freedom with a monthly salary.
We should have a new understanding of money. Ordinary income is usually divided into two types, one is the asset income, which is, using the existing capital itself to bring benefits, such as rent income, share dividends, royalties, and so on; The other is the labor income, which is, using labor in exchange for remuneration, but once shutdown, there will be no income.
Financial freedom is not means enough money to spend, but is a long period of labor in exchange for remuneration, but also ample.
The "freedom" in financial freedom means that there is no need to work for a paycheck and not be tied to a paycheck. You can choose what you really like to do instead of doing what you don't want to do with your life.
The labor income without income is unable to achieve financial freedom. After age of 25, work slowly from pure labor income, then transition to a certain proportion of the asset income, or even completely rely on the assets of income to achieve financial freedom. After the age of 25, besides getting a raise, you have to learn how to invest and manage your finance.
During elementary school, there is one student, often take some delicious food to please the classmate. Because of the food, everyone like to stay around him. But there is one time, he didn’t bring any food, everyone around him suddenly turn cold. There is also another classmate who good at study, whenever have any difficult question, everyone will ask him. Although he never try to please his classmate, but everyone likes to stay around him.
Lets divides the popularity into the asset popularity and the labor popularity.
The labor popularity needs to maintain in a labor condition at all times, which means he always giving out. He is very passive in most cases and has a fragile relationship. He seems to have a lot of popularity, but once he refused the request of others or stop the favor, the accumulation from earlier will then disappear.
Asset popularity is based on the attractiveness of an individual, from potential benefits, even if you do not have any favors.
This kind of asset can be wealth, power, fame, beauty, can also be talent, taste, personality charm, and even funny. Asset popularity means everyone wants to establish a relationship with you, exchange resources.
Other than those who are born in rich family, asset popularity requires early accumulation.
After age of 25, slowly improve your personal value, rely on your personal value to attract asset popularity and become people who want to know you. Don’t be a humble, unimportant marginal person, who always rely on the patronage to maintain contacts, and constantly looked up to high-quality network.
When others are struggling to find a job, there will always be a group of people who do not worry about work, they are company's most important asset. If they quit, other company will offer him jobs.
What made them take the initiative in the hiring market? They are scarcity. Ordinary people find jobs, and job will find scarce people.
The work of the sanitation workers is very tiring, and they are very important, but why their income is so low?
This is because our remuneration is not based on the degree of labor, nor is it based on the importance of work. The labor value of organizational time is determined by the relationship between supply and demand, and we are paid according to the scarcity of capacity.
The sanitation worker's work threshold is low, and easy to get substitution. Even the work content is laborious and the work nature is important, but it cannot obtain high reward. Importance and scarcity are two different things, the degree of hardship and the value of creation is not necessarily proportional.
Things that are rare are more expensive, so do people. So to find a well-paid job, you must have cultivate scarce ability. In the process of capacity development, always ask yourself: Do I master the skills that general people do not?
In the workplace, there is always a group of people who love to do comparison, fussy about: Why my colleagues can be lazy, why can't I be lazy? Why give me so many work? It's not fair! The boss gives me so little salary, why do I have to do more work?
This is fixed mindset, if you find out your colleagues are such person, it is best to quickly leave the company.
Many people think that work is a piecework rewards and timing rewards, which is a very primitive pipeline. People who have further vision, will not do so, they will focus on their own growth, focusing on their ability to develop. This kind of wits that work with co-workers and bosses is a chronic suicide in the workplace.
Researches said that everyone has to change 8-10 jobs on average for the rest of their life.
Every company is just a stage of your growth, please take as much nourishment as you can from every job, grow as much as possible, and save your energy for the next time you start.
Do you think you are lazy? "90% thinks that they are lazy." If you think that you are lazy, means that: I can become better, but I am lazy.
The root of laziness is also limited by cognitive ability. Take study for example, because of lack of knowledge, so you do not know what the use of study, so you can not see the relation between acceptance of education and the future of their own desire, so you did not make the right decision.
I have heard a weight loss quote: Don't always say weight loss, say if you become thin, you won’t be ugly.
"Lazy" is more like a diaper, like some parents like to say to their children: "My children are very clever, but just lazy, refused to study". So even if the child only get 10 marks in exam, he still can continue to be a smart child." We don’t know whether the child is really smart, but we know that the next stage of his life, the child will need to bear the consequences of being lazy.
Because of lazy, unwilling to study and get a bad result, sounds more diligent than study hard but not smart enough. So lazy is the best diaper.
If you tear this diaper off, what kind of person are you?
Before 25 years old, you can be righteously confused, after 25 years old, if there are things that you are not clear, the society will not be tolerant of you. The sooner you understand these things, the better.
