We all visit the mirror for several reasons: catch a quick good look, find a fitting smile, pick the newest pimple, access how well we've physically grown, etc.
Interestingly, we also visit the mirror to see what's beyond the physical, process bad moods, find some balance and honest reviews, etc.
When I visit the mirror for the latter, I don't just see myself (physical), I see me (spiritual). The person I'm looking at becomes the one who sets the goals, develops the ideas and strategies, sees the visions, makes the rules... If I'm sad, this is the person that's experiencing that sadness and I'm inclined to help her feel better so I don't lose myself. If I messed up, here stands my biggest critic.
Sometimes my loudest conversations are with this person, without saying a word. I dodge visits when I've screwed up, because I can't face that level of truth, and I have to be ready to fix it when I do.
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Perhaps this is all creepy and most sane people just sit in a quiet conversation with their inner self. That's great. I just like to put a face to it and stare my darkness or light head on.
Well, point is...
Most of us are fierce, brave, so strong with dreams so big almost unbelievable, but after spending time with our inner self, having the boldest conversation with our most attentive, unbiased, nonjudgemental audience (I call her my 70%), we leave them in the room, shut the door, and step into the wild confused, unprotected, undefended, misunderstood, unclad, empty! Suddenly we forget who we were moments ago, or just don't mind that our darkness, fear, and doubt consumes us.
If we manage to step out with them, at the first obstacle, we quickly chain them back in our minds so they don't embarrass or make us uncomfortable. We can set them free back home when in our comfort-zone and promise to do better tomorrow.
Undisputedly, it is really hard most times...
Everyone says to try harder, make the jump, don't care what people say, you can do it, blah blah blah blah blah..
Can't they see how hard this is?
So many eyes watching, mouths speaking, people expecting, (imaginary or not so imaginary) stones waiting to be thrown.. You don't need that kind of attention. You'd rather be real with yourself and dare not!
Okay. How about starting with the smallest audience, and labelling it the most important? YOUR YOU!
This is the only one who needs you to succeed more than you need it yourself, who empathizes with, and understands you.
Pay attention to them.
Be kind to them.
Take their advice.
Show up for them every day.
Let them find expression, introduce them to life outside your head.
Let them do for you out there what they do for you inside everyday.
They always know better, learn from them.
Feed them and help them grow, they will not leave you behind.
Only have points to prove to them.
Above all, trust them. Only their definition of you is true.
When you've given this audience a good show, then you know you can take up a few more.
You will see how you unfolded before your own eyes into your realest, truest, fullest form.
You will never want to be anyone else!
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