I wonder why some people lack a simple understanding of love. I have seen a situation where someone has to suffer because of love. Suffering for someone is not love at all. If you see yourself suffering because you love someone, my dear, that's not love. What do I mean by this? Some people suffer to get the attention of the person they claim they love, they suffer to get something from whom they claim they love. This is a one-sided love, and it's selfishness, not love. You do not need to beg, cry and wail for the person you love to notice you.
Some people have been in a situation like the one I painted above, yet they have not come to consciousness that they are not in love, but in bondage. Love is a two-way thing. Love is supposed to flow from both ends. I believe that love should flow naturally from both ends and not a thing that one needs to be forced or coercive. I see lots of people using gifts to get love and attention from someone. With this, you've shifted the attention of the person from naturally loving you for who you are to what you can give. This is the reason that many relationships and marriages collapse when those gifts stop flowing in.
Many people should open their eyes to this love of a thing. Love is supposed not to be blind and people presume. People should approach love with open eyes so that they can see some red flags in the person and avoid them.
People you do not have physical attraction for, you may not be able to love them wholeheartedly. There is a relationship between physical attraction and love. Even when there is no money, you can be eager to see the person.
Love birth happiness. If the person you love is not happy every time you're with him/her, my dear there is no love there. You must have this feeling of happiness whenever you're with him/her. If this is absent, there is no love.
Love does not run out of discussions. This is where community matters the most. Some people are in love yet they cannot have a good flow of communication. Lovers must at least have something to gist about. No matter how busy they are.
Very importantly, when you're in love, you're eager to see the person. Therefore, if the other party always gives the excuse of not wanting to see you, then there is no love as simple as that. Each lover should be bent over to see the other.
These are the things people should look out for while in love. If any of the following are missing, there is no love at all.
