We hurt ourselves first before People hurt us

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have you ever thought about how the intuitions we do have either when we want to do something or get involved with people comes about ?have you asked is it just my mind telling me this is actually wrong or I’m just making up things?🙃let’s dig in.

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Intuition is our gut feeling, it’s that inner feeling that saves us from regrets and almost always right but somehow we humans discharge it so quickly than we discharge the people who eventually hurt us why do we give people benefit of the doubt more than we give ourselves,if you ask me I would say we are sometimes too hard on ourselves we push ourself, break our own heart even before those people who hurt us 🥲how do I mean let’s say there’s something you want to do and your intuition will already tell you not to, it whispers to us how it will end but we go ahead silence it and give out ourself as prey to this people.

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I would like to let us know that we hurt ourselves first before that person was able to do it to you,he or she only had assess because we let them do that,but I wonder why we hurt ourselves and then complain when people do that to us, that pain you think you felt because someone did something to you was already there even before you gave them the power to hurt you, you betrayed yourself when you didn’t listen to your intuition,they just added salt to injury that’s why we use this statement “if only I followed my intuition” so before you start blaming someone else tell your self the truth how many red flags did you ignore because you wanted to please someone else?? only for them to hurt you.

Let’s get to the important part of this post let’s learn to prioritize ourselves First,you see self love is what you can’t buy it comes from within you need to love yourself enough to not need validation from people they might be contributing factors to why you now act this way but I’m telling you today you are enough you are worthy and this phase too shall pass.

How to correct this situation

1. firstly you need to discover at what point it went wrong,heal from it, you heal by letting go of everything and situation that made you doubt yourself to the point that you felt like you need be a people pleaser for you to be relevant.

how do you do that ??you need to remind yourself you are responsible for your happiness ask your self what’s the advantage of making myself a people pleaser ? actually there’s none you will just continue to be pushed around and trust me that’s very exhausting you may not realize now, you will feel like “let me just be doing it to be in their good book” but trust me you will need to start making extra extra efforts because this type people don’t get satisfied they keep asking for more until they have drained all your energy.

When you don’t have anything to give anymore and you are not working at their pace they will drop you and move to the next person,so why not tell yourself the truth.

That brings us to the second part.

1. You need to start telling yourself the truth,follow your gut feeling.

2. You need a routine which includes relaxation therapy,you need a support group.

3. You also need to work on those insecurities that make u feel like you are not enough because it’s because you feel that way that’s why you let people treat you as they want.you need to avoid any and every person who would want to contaminate your energy.

4. Take evening walks.

5. Read books.

6. Prioritize your growth.

Go out, look for something doing if you already have great that’s a good one..
you see we are making progress 😁because trust me when you are actively busy you won’t even have time for people with negative energy and do you know the funny thing those people will want to be in your space when they see you doing better,now the trick is they want to access you to break you but then do you know how to handle this people?I will be talking about it in my next post thank you for stopping by.