How to Love Difficult People

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How to Love Difficult People

I’ve been in many tricky situations in my life, impossible situations at times. At times I’ve experienced angry people, stressed people, manipulative people. Through it all, I’ve mastered some important things about dealing with people.

Let go. Often when there is a change in people for the worse, an energetic shift, it is because they are having an internal process. Giving space brings detaching from the situation for both parties.
Compassion. Many people can and do want to change. An open heart creates a space in which people can come to a realization without being pressured.
Objectivity We can take a step back from our own emotions by observing them. In that way we remove some of our filters such as being overly naive or suspicious
Clarity Sensitive people can get confused if they feel emotions from others. By finding clarity we can know what is and isn’t us
Letting go of Projection If we are aware of our projections, the emotions in us that we blame others for, they lose some of their steam.

In this process, we go through a flow which I call the Basic Rhythm of Verbal Dancing

Expanding:we take a step back from the way in which we’re emotionally involved, and we see a bigger picture. We detach from our old way of relating, our projections and identifications.
Breathing by breathing consciously, we start to feel our own feelings, become more aware of then. We can also follow our heart more through connecting to it.
Landing we embrace new qualities such as Compassion, Objectivity and Clarity.