Live your life the way you want to and don’t care about what anybody else thinks of it. Love whoever triggers your love. Don’t promise anyone to love only her (or him). Don’t ever ask someone to love only you. No-one can promise you this. This is just the way it is.
When a man promises this, he is tied to one woman by her expectations or his fear of her emotional reactions. And he cannot be the man he is, that is, the passionate, attentive and responsive man she knew him to be when they first met. Then he was tied to no woman and his abandoned, exciting and ardent way of wooing and loving her was the natural result of his freedom and attraction to her. As soon as he begins to realise he is no longer free the rot, the awareness of the collar, sets in. This is the case in every man unless, as I say, he does not feel restricted by the woman’s notions and expectations of what he should be. Men must be free to love, to love you, as you love to be loved.
Am I condoning men’s sexual restlessness? Of course not. Man can only be free when he is fearless; when he is not afraid of women, when he is not afraid to love her up to the hilt, all the way. And yet, at the same time not to abide her emotional notions and dreams of how he should be, which destroy the man in himself and the man in him for her. Both lose when he is afraid. And that is what has happened to the love of men and women on earth.