If you had asked me this question like few years ago, my answer would have been really different from what it is today, see before now I was the type of person who kept good news or any news to myself, I dont know why exactly, well I just liked to think about things on my own first, sometimes I would only tell my mom if it was something important or something I felt was worth sharing.
Aside from that I mostly kept things to myself, but things have changed now, these days the first person I tell whenever I have a something to tell whether it is something big or something very small that person is my boyfriend, it does not even matter what it is, If something good happens my mind automatically goes to telling my boyfriend, maybe I got feedback on something I worked on ,maybe I achieved a small goal, maybe something exciting happened during my day maybe it is even something that other people might consider insignificant, I still find myself wanting to tell my boyfriend, My boyfriend has become that one person I naturally share things with.
Honestly I think that says a lot about the level of comfort and trust that exists between my boyfriend and me, when you find someone you genuinely enjoy talking to someone who listens and celebrates your wins with you it becomes easy to include my boyfriend in my life, seriously that is how it feels for me.
Now when it comes to whether I am the first person my boyfriend tells his good news to I would say yes at least from what I know and from the relationship we have built so far, I want to believe that I understand my boyfriend and know my boyfriend to that point even though we have not been together for a long time, over time I have noticed that my boyfriend shares things with me too no matter what it is.
The big things,
The small things,
The exciting things, and honestly, that means a lot to me.
And this is not because I am trying to compete for a position in his lilife but because it shows trust, for me trust is one of the most important parts of any relationship, the fact that he feels comfortable enough to share things with me says a lot.
Now if one day I found out that I was not the first person my boyfriend calls when he had good news , hmm I do not think I would automatically feel bad, In fact , if the person my boyfriend always first tells was his mom I would completely understand, That is not a competition I am interested in having, Mothers occupy a place in their kid's lives and I respect that, there are bonds that exist long before our relationships came into the picture, so if he shared something with his mom first, i honestly would not have an issue with it.
What matters more to me is knowing that my boyfriend trusts me enough to tell me the same way , i trust my boyfriend enough to tell him my own things, at the end of the day relationships are not about keeping score, yeah, Relationships are not about who heard the news every single time, Relationships are about trust, communication and also feeling safe, with each other, that is exactly what I value. So yes he is the person I tell when I have good news these days.
Not because I have to, but because I want to because sharing those moments with him who genuinely cares about me , that makes the good news feel even better.
Image is Modified With Chatgpt
