Hello Everyone. Happy Valentine's Day....
So In life, we always expect changes to come in some kind of big dramatic ways, Like moving to a new city, ending a long relationship, getting a huge opportunity, or losing something important, but for me, I have come to realized that the changes that has shaped me the most were actually the small small small ones, the quiet decisions, the little adjustments that even no one can noticed.
One small change that I embraced was learning how to say no, It sounds so simple, right? You see it's just two letters, but for someone like me who used to always say yes so people would not be disappointed, it was a really big deal, i used to stretch myself too thin just to keep people around me happy, I would agree to things I did not even have the energy for, and then deep down inside me , I would feel drained and sometimes even resentful, so .... the day I started saying no without over explaining myself, I felt really more lighter, it was then, i realized that protecting my peace is not me being selfish, It is necessary to do so.
So another kind of little change i made for myself was accepting that not everyone is meant to stay in my life forever, then I used to fight like so hard to hold onto friendships, even when I could see clearly that we were growing in a different directions, and I thought that letting go meant failure, but I have learned that sometimes people are seasonal, theyy come and teach you somethings of life , and then they go, and that is okay, so then, once I embraced that, I just stopped forcing connections, I also stopped begging for effort and seriously, that brought me so much peace.
I also started choosing silence over unnecessary arguments, there is was this time I always felt like I had to defend myself , I had to prove my point, I just had to win, but now, omooo... Me I ask myself, is this even worth my energy?, most times, it is not, and walking away from drama does not make me a weak person, it actually shows growth in many ways possible,and that small shift in my mindset has really saved me from so much stress.
Another tiny habit I embraced was spending more time alone, not to be lonely, nope, just alone, I started enjoying my own company, watching movies by myself, I started thinking, reflecting, planning, and at first, it somehow, but the with time, I began to understand myself better and i learned what I truly like, what I can tolerate, and what I wi never accept again and you see being comfortable alone changed how I deal with people around me, I no longer accept bare minimum just because I am afraid to be by myself.
Looking back now, none of these changes looked too dramatic on the outside, like no big announcement of some sort, it was just small decisions I made quietly, but the impact they made were really massive.
I am calmer now, I feel more confident in myself, I am more aware of my boundaries and I am also more protective of my energy.
Life does not always change with really big moments, sometimes, it can just changes in a soft and simple way, and those little ways, If you look carefully, can really transform everything.
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